One of my main intentions in sharing my ideas through the medium of article writing and submission is to help people in any way I can to assist them in recognizing their own worth and value. In many cases I seize the opportunity by writing about the diverse and outstanding personalities and ideas that are out there for us to call upon via websites, audio-information-pieces, reading materials or movie/video entertainment venues with significant messages or meaning behind them. But I would also have to say sometimes our own personal insights or experiences lend a valuable hand to inspiring or motivating others as well. If you have read my thoughts in the article I wrote entitled "The Secret"...Do You Know? Then you have some insight into the fact that I had a very difficult childhood. You would also know that I have moved forward from that part of my past with a clearer sense of self.
I was talking to my boyfriend about the importance of not letting the occurrence of events and circumstances long gone hinder our current take on the beauty of life. It then struck me what is it that I have learned from those episodes and incidents that sets me apart from the masses -who instead of overcoming abuse move forward to become abusers themselves? I then realized that the greatest difference is I refuse to let any one other than myself dictate my value, and I see my own importance -even if my caretakers did not! I also find comfort in accepting that it was what it was and that that is the simple truth of it all. My past is not my unfortunate story nor is it my predestined legacy. It is instead "My-Personal- Barometer-of-Strength!" I view it in the scope of acknowledging my ability to survive an abusive childhood -as well as come through it a more enlightened human being and that alone I assure you means the world to me!
If I could offer any piece of advice to anyone out there struggling to end the haunting of events they have encountered on this great and puzzling journey called life it would be this; Don't let the subtle difference between a thought and a memory keep you down. I learned that from a dear friend who told me that she had heard of that idea form her son after he attended a school conference where the guest speaker was a psychologist and he offered this out to the teens in the audience who were trying to deal with their own life's difficult chapters. This individual pointed out that a memory is fleeting because it is often so vague and gives us only a mere glimpse of our past. It is non-threatening because it lacks distinction and clarity as it passes through our mind. This in turn allows us to excuse the memory away without becoming overwhelmed by it.
The thought side of recall however is -or can be the real threat. A thought can continue to involve itself in our day-to-day activities and therefore can wage a serious war with our sense-of-well-being and peace. A thought -active in this manner can act like a virus as it begins to overwhelm and take siege of our mind-set and what we focus on. The simple secret to dealing with these "thoughts" is to repel them as soon as they enter the arena of our awareness. We can shift our focus from one subject to another as easily as we can blink or scratch an itch!
We do this by stopping the flow of images that coexist with the thought/s that are taking over our immediate or current thought process. It is ours to master. After all if we are wasting so much time giving into the retracing and remembrance of an event we need to let go of...why not use the same time applied in indulging this senseless mind-feed with acknowledgments of happier memories, events and circumstances that we have come to cherish instead? We can in fact do this with great success if we so desire. We can overcome and create for ourselves the lives we were born to experience (with peace of mind and joy) in the first place!
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