3 Keys to Learning Positive Intrapersonal Communications

I know the idea of 'talking to yourself' seems ridiculous. However, in today's time, it's absolutely necessary to have great intrapersonal communication skills. These skills aren't necessarily about being conceited or selfish. It's more about being able to face reality with a more calm and level mindset. Here are 3 keys that I believe helps to improve intrapersonal communication skills:

1. Don't be ashamed to talk to yourself. I am not ashamed to admit I talk to myself. I ask myself serious and/or simple questions every day that centers on my attitude, love for myself, love for God, love for my husband, love for other people, and so much more. Most times, I don't answer certain questions right away because I want to wait to see if the answer will come from God. But because I asked myself a question and God knows what I asked, He'll answer. That's why I have no shame because most answers come from God. I may give an answer to some of the simple questions but for more of those serious questions, it's a few days or weeks because I want to make sure God answers and not myself. If I answer, I may not end up with the best solution. If I give room for God to answer, I am more likely to follow the right solution.

1. Have daily, consistent reflection time. Since the start of 2018, I've been doing tons of self-reflection. I've been telling people how I spend so much time in the mirror nowadays. Not sounding conceited but being transparent and sharing the fact that I need help. I need God, I need my husband, I need my family, I need trustworthy friends, etc. I'm not perfect. I love to learn and I have a lot of knowledge. However, I still need God to supply all my needs according to His riches in glory. (Phil. 4:19) I still need protection, love, support, healthy food, decent clothes, etc. I can't survive without God and what He supplies.

1. Break limiting beliefs through thanksgiving. Each person has an idea of who they are. Most are quick to recognize their weaknesses but so many are slow to recognize their strengths. It's easy to recognize a strength with a well-known public figure because that's all the media will show. But nowadays, the truth is coming forth and recognizing that even the they have flaws. We have to break these limiting beliefs by being so thankful for what we do have! Don't take what you have for granted. Don't doubt yourself by comparing yourself to others. It's not worth comparing or competing. Be grateful for how God made you.

Love yourself enough to talk to yourself. Improve your intrapersonal communication skills. You may find it so easy to encourage others but take more time to encourage yourself. Believe me, you'll reap the benefits over and over again!

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Top Scientist: "People perish for the lack of this hidden knowledge..." - Law Of Attraction

Humanity Suffers From Limiting Beliefs

For centuries now, human beings have perpetuated and disseminated certain limiting beliefs that result in limiting attitudes and behaviors. As a result, humanity has for centuries transmitted and preserved beliefs that only damage us as a species. Instead of uniting us and making us stronger, they weaken us. Only by identifying, questioning and changing those beliefs will humanity advance into a new and more accepting existence.

Let me give you an example. Most human beings consider theirs one of the best, if not THE best culture in the world. Many people believe things such as...

• Mine is the best culture in the world.
• My culture transmits values, principles and virtues like no other culture.
• Many of the traditions in my culture make us better than others

When new human beings are then born into one of those cultures, they learn to despise others, even though they originally had no choice at all where to be born. They will antagonize others, just based on those beliefs. And might even feel great insecurity or anxiety if anybody then proves them wrong.

That's the way in which conflict and crises are created. There are many of those limiting beliefs transmitted from generation to generation. Some examples are:

• My culture and inherited worldview hold THE truth
• Only those adhering to my culture are right
• Only WE are the chosen ones. All others are less than us
• We are whom we were born to be. By being born where we were born, we are superior to others because our culture offers us some principles, views or beliefs that make us better
• Success is humanity's ultimate goal
• Human beings need to be important. We need to strive and to always try and be better
• Life is a race we need to run
• Life is hard

When two people from different cultures but with the same belief meet, both are convinced that theirs is the superior one. By trying to prove the other one wrong, conflict arises. And because they firmly believe their opinion, they try to prove their views superior and try to convince the other person of their mistake.

By perpetuating certain beliefs, we also perpetuate limitations and conflict.

This doesn't need to be like this, though. Human beings have a choice. They can choose to modify the beliefs they transmit just a little bit so that they are not that limiting. Instead of: "Life is a race we need to run," the belief can be something like, "Life can be a race to run." Instead of: "My culture and inherited worldview hold THE truth," it could be, "my culture and inherited worldview hold my truth." Or even, instead of: "Life is hard." something like, "life can be hard or not". Just those changes in the wording open new possibilities. By not being so limiting, we give the next generation permission to question the rigidity of their beliefs and the choice to accept others more easily, thus helping humanity come to an understanding.

I know this approach will need some time, some generations, to become a reality. But no road is walked without taking a first step. I wish my little reflexion here today could help you take that tiny first step by making you at least think about this and about your own limiting beliefs from a slightly different perspective.

If you then discover that your own beliefs are limiting you, ask yourself how to change the way in which you express them every day when talking with others, with your children or any other children still growing, with others in society, with your peers and friends. Ask yourself how to contribute by planting the new seed of a less limiting belief that can grow into your culture. When somebody expresses a limiting cultural belief, offer a less rigid one instead so a little hope can be shared. We can all change those beliefs step by step, seed by seed, word by word. Help yourself and help generations to come do away with some of our obstacles, limitations and conflicts. Redefine your own beliefs.

I encourage you to consider and approach some more ideas:

• Replace limiting and sentencing words from your beliefs. Instead of saying, always, never, everyone, nobody, and so on, open your expression to wider terms such as, occasionally, seldom, most people, just some, and others.
• When speaking, be it with adults or children, add an extra layer of flexibility to your words. Leave a door open to doubt. After all, no human being knows it ALL; no human being has lived it ALL. Thus, begin expressing your beliefs by declaring that they are YOUR beliefs but there could be others as valid as yours.
• Ask yourself what is limiting you, what obstacles you face in life and check how you talk about them to yourself. There's very likely room for changes in the way you speak to yourself too.
• When thinking about the supremacy of your culture, remember that all other great cultures in history were finally replaced by newer ones. Question the historical basis of your belief. Question your beliefs from their roots.
• Give yourself permission to doubt. Allow doubt in others, too.
• Look for and define beliefs that trigger positive instead of negative feelings, thoughts and emotions in you.
• Give yourself permission to learn and continue growing.

Enjoy life, ALL of it,
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7 Keys to a Positive Personality | Brian Tracy

Beware of the company you keep. Surround yourself with positive people with a like minded mindset!

How to Overcome Procastination!

Everyone procrastinates.

But what is its true meaning?

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines procrastination as “to put off intentionally and habitually.”

And some psychologists say it is “a gap between intention and action.”

No matter how you slice it, procrastination is a significant deterrent to success. It’s a big reason so many people live lives of desperation and frustration. They tend to avoid or delay large, essential tasks that have considerable future value. And this adds even more stress and creates a further hardship.

But every now and then procrastination works out to our benefit.

It’s only by accident

Sometimes we get lucky, and it turns out that the task we have been putting off doesn’t need to get done after all. Like when a project gets cancelled. Or the boss doesn’t need that report you never got around to writing.

However, things like that happen only occasionally—when the world operates against your own expectations. It’s like going to Las Vegas and spinning the roulette wheel. Sometimes you’ll win, but most of the time you won’t. On average, that’s a terrible strategy for success.

The Oxford English Dictionary has one of the best definitions I’ve seen. It defines procrastination as a postponement, “often with the sense of deferring though indecision, when early action would have been preferable.”

Since we’re all guilty of this (at least from time to time), let’s spend a few minutes talking about typical signs of procrastination and ways to overcome this self-sabotaging behaviour.

Put a finger on it

The first step in stopping procrastinating is to recognize that you’re doing it.

However, this isn’t always as straightforward as it sounds.

Although there are many more, here are several habits of procrastinators.

1. You’re always a day or two (or more) late.

You often find yourself performing tasks that you intended to do the day before. You reason it away by telling yourself it’s because you take on too much each day.

Or you leave an item on your to-do list for a long time, even though it’s important.

2. You complete low-priority tasks first.

You fill your time with the trivial tasks that are on your to-do list or things other people ask you to do.

3. You are easily distracted.

You sit down to start a task, and then immediately go off to get coffee or decide to check your email.

4. You admire passionate workers.

You admire people who are passionate and dedicated to their work. You want to be the same but deep inside you believe that you can’t.

5. You wait for the mood to strike.

You tell yourself you’re waiting to be in the “right mood” or for the “right time” to tackle a task.

6. You’re easily excited, but you don’t follow through.

You see people making things happen, and it looks easy. So, you give it a try. But your excitement quickly wanes when you find out it involves hard work. The thought of tackling a challenging project is so stressful, the only way to get out of it is to find something else to do.

7. You claim you work best when “your back is against the wall.”

You love the adrenaline rush of knowing you’re running out of time. You often take action only when you’re threatened with a “Must do.”

What’s driving your procrastination?

You need to understand the reasons why you are procrastinating before you can begin to tackle it.

Below are some possible reasons for procrastination. Look at the list to see which ones resonate with you:

• Feeling like there are other things you should do first
• Lacking confidence in the task
• Unable to begin an essential task until you get organized
• Perfectionism and fear of failure
• Overwhelmed by thinking of it
• Having too much work to do at once
• Finding the task is boring or unpleasant

(If you can think of an additional reason people procrastinate, please leave it in the comments below.)

Deal with it

Procrastination usually involves ignoring an unpleasant, but likely more critical task, in favor of one that is more enjoyable or easier.

But giving in to this impulse has consequences. Even minor episodes of procrastination can make you feel guilty or ashamed. And over the long haul, procrastinating makes you less productive and prevents you from achieving your goals.

Procrastination is a habit. And the only way to get rid of a bad habit is to replace it with a good habit.

Here are five habits you can develop to overcome procrastination. I recommend using as many of them as possible to give yourself the best possible chance of succeeding.

1. Commit to important tasks. Focus on doing, not avoiding. Write down the tasks that you need to complete each day and specify a time for doing them. This will help you to tackle your work efficiently and become far more productive.

2. Rephrase your internal dialog. Replace the phrases “need to” and “have to” with “choose to.”

Saying the first two phrases implies that you have no choice in what you do. This can make you feel disempowered and unmotivated to take on large, important tasks.

However, saying, “I choose to,” implies that you want to do the project and it makes you feel more in control of your life.

3. Minimize distractions. Turn off your email and social media and avoid sitting anywhere near a television while you work.

4. Make it look smaller. Break a big task down into weekly and daily subtasks.

5. Focus on the long game. If you’re procrastinating because you find a task unpleasant, identify the long-term benefits of completing it. For instance, could it affect your annual performance review or your bottom line if you’re a business owner?

You might also identify the unpleasant consequences of avoiding the task. Ask yourself what will happen if you don’t complete it? How might it affect your personal, team or organizational goals? For some people, understanding the consequences of avoiding or delaying something makes the task more enjoyable.

Just decide

There is no magic pill that will put an end to procrastination forever. But these tips will help you take concrete steps toward achieving more and feeling a lot better about yourself.

When you decide that you will move forward no matter what, you’re guaranteed to enjoy much more of the good things that life has to offer.

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