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Live in the Now, Learn From the Past and Create a Wonderful Future

All you really possess is right now, the past is gone forever and is only a distant memory and the future only exists as an idea or electrical charge in your mind. So if you consistently live your life looking in the rear-view mirror, living with regret for what could or should have been. You are wasting the value of every moment to be content and fulfilled. Similarly if you constantly live, gazing into the future, concerned about what may be, you never get to use your most valuable possession, namely every "NOW" to live, love and laugh.

Learn from the Past
The only way to create the wonder you deserve and to enjoy every moment, is to remove the memory of failure, which is embedded so deeply in your Psyche and instead to use the memory of the past as your tutor. Learn all the lessons it offers and then move boldly into the present, equipped to make the most of every moment.

Plan for the Future, Live in the Now
Yes, you must have a vision or direction, which you want to use to guide your travels into the future and a strategic plan, which you act upon daily to get you there, but learn to live in the moment and give yourself permission to enjoy each one. The picture of possibility the future offers, is only a figment of your imagination. Discovering meaning and fulfilment is not found at that destination in the future, but in every moment you dare to live in the NOW. Yes as clichéd as it may sound, success is never about the destination, but rather about enjoying the journey, which will eventually get you there.

Do not feel Disappointment, Discover Meaning and Fulfillment
Disappointment is the gap, which exists between your unrealised expectations, your reality and what you believe is possible for you. So yes you will encounter difficulties, challenges and setbacks on your path towards the success you desire. These are all just a natural and very necessary part of any success journey, as they teach you valuable lessons and often highlight opportunities, which would have remained hidden, had you not encountered the challenges in the first place. Summon the courage to deal with the hurts of the past, travel boldly into the future, but live and discover meaning, joy and happiness in the NOW.

Break Free - You are Magnificent

Being average is easy, being exceptional on the other hand demands, sustained inspiration, extra effort and a healthy dose of daily discipline. None of which should detract from your commitment to the moment. Never allow yourself to feel overwhelmed or distressed by the process of inviting success into your life, live every moment to the full and enjoy the meaning and fulfilment each one brings. Yes there is a price to be paid to achieve the success you desire, but if the picture of possibility you have for the future is aligned with who you really are, you will always be able to find value and meaning in everything you do, including the goal specific actions you will take daily.

Be Confident - You Really do have what it Takes
Your dreams are fragile and as you travel the path towards them, you will be buffeted by challenges and setbacks. Accept them as part of the journey, embrace them and do not allow them to spoil even one of your magnificent moments. Your "NOWS" are really valuable, enjoy each one and you will have mastered your life. You do have what it takes, so feel the confidence you deserve and march boldly and confidently into your future, embracing, enjoying and making the most of every moment.

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The Unusual Ways To Break Any Habit

Sow a thought; reap an action.
Sow an action; reap a habit.
Sow a habit; reap a character.
Sow a character; reap a destiny.

I like this quote. It shows up throughout history in a few different forms. Where does it come from? I don't know (and neither does anyone else, apparently). I don't care, to be honest.

Why do I like it? Because it carves a clear path from your thoughts to your destiny. It's no sure thing - it takes a lot of work to move down the chain. But that's a given. Destinies aren't prophecies - they're what happen when you rise to meet your potential.

And thoughts are simple, little things. You can control them. Again, this takes discipline. But something tells me you have plenty of that, when you want something enough.

I'm going to start in the obvious place: the middle. After all, the middle has leverage over the entire chain. Getting that right means getting your thoughts right. It opens up your character and destiny. So start with thoughts if you want (just don't run out of steam halfway). I'll stick to the profitable middle.

Habits. What can we say about them?

What are habits?

You can probably define habits. They're those things you've learned to do, to the point where they're automatic. You can certainly give examples. Turning on the TV when you get home, brushing your teeth, getting dressed in the morning...

(Thank goodness for habits. Without them, I think I'm more likely to show up to work naked than not.)

But what's a habit made of?

I like Charles Duhigg's model of a habit. He describes it as having three parts:

1) The Trigger - this is what activates your habit. It could be a time (like having a coffee each morning), place (like heading for the weights when you get to the gym), event (shaking a hand when someone offers theirs) or thought (raiding the fridge when you think of your ex).

2) The Behaviour - this is the action that follows the Trigger. It could be helpful or harmful, or neither.

3) The Reward - this is what you get out of the habit. The morning coffee offers a reliable energy hit. The weights at the gym provide a sense of control. The handshake promises a smooth (read: unembarrassing) social exchange. The fridge offers comfort and distraction.

How can you break a habit?

Duhigg's model offers an elegant approach. To change a habit, you could brute force it using willpower. Simply don't do the thing ever again for the rest of your life...

Yeah. Willpower fails for a reason.

You could also remove the Trigger from your life. If that's an option, go for it. But chances are it's not.

The easier approach is to keep the Trigger and Reward... but change the Behaviour.

Let's say you want to cut down on coffee, for example. The Trigger might be a specific time and the Reward is alertness. How else could you feel more refreshed? Maybe going for a walk or talking to a friend will do the trick.

Want to stop emptying the fridge? Then find a new way to stop thinking of your ex. What else will create the Reward of distraction without involving food? Maybe a good book?

How does hypnosis break a habit?

The above approach takes planning and discipline. It slowly rewrites the Trigger-Behaviour-Reward chain within the habit.

Hypnosis does the same thing, only faster and more thoroughly. It can diffuse the habit on all fronts.

Let's say that you drink to relax and it's starting to be a problem. Well, then the Trigger is stress, the Behaviour is drinking and the Reward is relaxation:

Hypnosis can easily provide healthier ways to relax. This takes care of the Reward. It also messes with the Trigger - if your own mind can relax you, when would you ever be tense? The hypnotist can then isolate the Behaviour from this sequence, so you no longer think that drinking is relaxing.

It's not always this simple. But it often is.

This is why hypnosis sometimes creates such quick and lasting changes. It warps the habit out of shape until it no longer fits in your mind. You can't run the same old patterns anymore. Instead of slowly replacing it with a new habit, it pulls it apart and leaves the pieces on the floor.

If this was all hypnosis could do, it would still be worthwhile. Breaking habits this quickly and easily is a superpower. Learn the psychology of your unconscious. Or, at least, find someone who has.

A great way to learn how your unconscious mind works is through self-hypnosis. I doubt anything is both this effective and this fun. Let your mind surprise you. It's wiser than you think.

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Goal Setting - Power Message from John Assaraf!

John Assaraf – How To Achieve Any Goal

So, many years ago when I was 19 years old I had a meeting with a man that I’ve never met before that was introduced to me by my brother… and this man was very successful financially, with his family, as a philanthropist, as a businessman…

And he asked me one question that defined the trajectory of my life. The question he asked me was: was I interested in achieving my life’s goals and dreams or was I committed to achieving them.

And he said if I was interested I would do what’s convenient, but if I was committed I would do whatever it takes.

And Mr. Alan Brown said to me: John if you’re interested, you’ll do whats convenient. You’ll believe your stories and excuses and you’ll continue to be a victim of your current reality and circumstances. You’ll come up with all the reasons why you can’t achieve those goals and that’s what you will be focusing on for the rest of your life.

He said the big difference is if you’re committed you’ll start today to let go of your stories, your excuses, your reasons why you’re achieving your certain results right now and why you can’t achieve any of those goals and dreams you wrote down this piece of paper. He said if you’re committed you’ll upgrade your knowledge. If you’re committed you’ll upgrade your skills. if you’re committed you’ll come in every single day and figure out how you can achieve those goals and why you must versus why you can’t and why you won’t.

And after he explained the difference between interest and commitment to me I put my hand and I shook his hand and said: Mr. Brown, I’m committed! Now, I was scared shitless to say that I’m committed because I had to let go of all my reasons why I couldn’t achieve my goals and dreams.

And the very act of writing my goals and then saying to him… and then to myself… Make a commitment to myself to be committed, I started to achieve the financial and life goals and dreams that I wrote down on that piece of paper. And not only did I achieve every one of those, I way, way, way, exceeded every single goal.

That’s when my whole life changed. One commitment. One moment in my life. I said that I was committed to my financial and health and relationship and career and business and charitable goals and the travel goals and the health goals I had… I was committed to all of my goals. He said “great”. Well the first action steps towards commitment is to develop a plan for how you actually achieve those goals.

So here’s my question for you: Are you interested in achieving your financial, health, relationship, career, business goals and your travel goals or are you committed?

Now, if you’re committed here’s what I would like you to do: Take a sheet of paper and write down one goal for every area of your life health, love, relationships, career, business, charitable write down 1 goal and when you want to achieve by and then, what I want you to do is write down 3 action steps that you can take towards achieving those goals.

Write down what do you need to LEARN, what do you need to BELIEVE and what do you need to DO.

Take those things, put those right on your calendar with a time by which you are going to complete those things and if you can do that for each one of your goals, if you can focus on the goal you want to achieve, three action items towards achieving those goals and a specific timeline by when you’re going to achieve it by, you are going to be the type of person that achieves your goals and dreams versus the person who hopes and prays and wishes  that those goals and dreams become a reality.

The person who achieves goals and dreams takes consistent, daily, weekly, monthly actions towards those goals and dreams. And they don’t allow their stories or their excuses or their reasons or circumstances to hold them back. They are committed to achieving their goal no matter what.

That’s the attitude. That’s the mindset that you have to have. And you have to have absolute resolve that you will do whatever it takes.

So… are you interested? Or are you committed?

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