How To Prevent The Ageing Effects Of Stress...

Experiencing high levels of stress can make you age prematurely.

You probably know at least a few individuals who have experienced what they imagine to be highly stressful events – maybe a divorce, the loss of a loved one, a reduction in income, debt or the discovery of a serious health issue – that has accelerated their ageing processes quite rapidly.

“I remember a young man who found out that his mother had metastatic cancer. Within a few weeks he began growing a patch of white hair. It was quite amazing how quickly he went grey. I watched a 20-year-old girl find out she was pregnant, without knowing who the father was, and saw how she felt the pressure of the social and financial implications.”

There are a few sensible actions you can take to cope.

Coping with stress

So what can you do if you find yourself experiencing circumstances that feel emotionally distressing?

• Having a close friend or a professional to communicate with would be ideal.
• Meditation and stilling your mind to enable your inner solutions to arise can also assist. Exercising to channel off some extra tension will maybe assist temporarily.
• Making sure you eat quality, nutritious food during such times is certainly wise.

Also, ask yourself how your perceived stressful situation could serve or benefit you now and in the future?

To perceive only the negative side of the emotional equation and not even attempt to search for the accompanying positive side can further exacerbate the stress and keep you forever bound to the source of your stress.

Balance your perceptions

Balancing the equation can help dissolve this concentrated stress.

A balanced mind – seeing both the positive and negative side of things – offers the solution.

Ask yourself what the drawbacks would be if this emotionally stressful event had not occurred?

Sometimes we assume that our life would have been much
better if things would have turned out differently.

Sometimes people compare their present realities to falsely optimistic fantasies.

“Having unrealistic expectations about the world or yourself can add to your stress perceptions when life doesn’t match your ideal fantasy. Be sure your life expectations are balanced and realistic. Life offers a balance. One-sided events don’t occur.”

Since many stressful situations involve personal interactions with others, it’s wise to ask where and when you have participated in such an interaction with someone else who perceived you as being the source of their stress.

This question can humble you and make you think twice about unwisely judging others, since a lot of stress involves exaggerated judgments about others. Self-reflection is wise and honest introspection often reveals humbling histories. When you become reflective your expectations often become more realistic.

If someone is criticising or rejecting you, ask yourself where someone is simultaneously praising or accepting you, although maybe not within the same location.

This takes deep introspection, but it is worth it.

A great discovery is revealed when you take the time to honestly probe the initially unseen world that balances every event.

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Do Other People Make Us Feel Stressed?

Earlier on, whilst I was out in a populated area, I overheard someone say to another person that they "stressed them out". I had no idea why they said this to them, but there must have been a reason for it.

It would be easy to conclude that the other person was behaving in a way that was causing them to suffer. Based on this, the other person would need to change in order for them to feel more at peace

Powerless

So, unless the other person changes their behaviour in some way, their life is not going to change. There is then a strong chance that their life will end up getting even worse, causing them to experience even more stress.

It could be said that they will be a victim and the other person will be a perpetrator - one of them won't have any control, while the other one will. So, this is going to be something that is black and white.

The Norm

I don't know anything about this person, of course, but it is unlikely that there isn't anything that they can do to change what is going on. However, even though this is the case, it is not as if it is uncommon for someone to have this outlook in today's world.

This can be seen as what happens when someone has an external locust of control, which would cause them to believe that they have no control over their life. If, on the other hand, someone has an internal locust of control, they would believe that they have control over their life.

A Choice

Someone like this would look into why they feel stressed, allowing them to do something about it. They might see that what is taking place in their mind is causing them to feel stressed.

Therefore, by changing how they think about what is taking place, it will give them the chance to feel more at peace. Along with this, they may see that their behaviour is playing a par, too.

A Different Identity

When someone responds in this way when they feel stressed, they are unlikely to see themselves a victim. They will be able to see that they can act like a victim, but that this is just a role.

The view that they have of themselves will be what allows them to take responsibility for their life, as opposed to blaming other people for what they experience. Being this way is going to be far better for their health and overall fulfilment.

Final Thoughts

The main point here is that if someone feels stressed, it will be vital for them to look into what they can do to settle themselves down. Staying as they are and blaming someone or something else is not going to solve anything.

What they need to do will depend on what is going on for them - it might be case of changing their thinking or no longer spending time with someone. Meditating on a regular basis may also help.

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