How to Improve Self Confidence - Master the Law of Attraction

"Believe you can and you're halfway there", said Theodore Roosevelt, a man who recognized the true potential of the human being. Sadly, most people don't reach deep level of thinking and experience little or no results in their life, because they lack self confidence.

In today's society we cannot afford not to learn how to improve self confidence. If we want to progress and succeed in life, if we want to get things done and achieve the impossible, we need to start building our character, we need to call onto ourselves the highest possibility of what we can be.

So, how do you improve self confidence? That's the million-dollar question...
It all starts with a thought. Think you CAN do it! Henry Ford knows very well that, "whether you can, or can't, you're right". In other words, what you believe about yourself, you become.

Besides, you're here today because of your past recurring thoughts. What you think about yourself before you say or do anything, plants on the subliminal level, in your subconscious mind, the seeds of your actions.

If you constantly say to yourself things such as: I can't, I'm not good at, I'm not sure how, I don't know how to... than guess what will happen? You'll get exactly what you think! Ask and you shall receive is not just a saying - it is a true principle and how the visible and invisible Universe works.

Successful people have confidence, self-esteem and self-respect because they recognize the true hidden power of the human character, and they plant the right seeds at the right time, meaning they constantly construct their mind and mindset like a CEO would build his business - from ground up, with close attention.

A key element to improve self confidence plays on the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction says that you attract into your life and surroundings pretty much what you think of, or believe in. And if these thoughts are also attached to feelings or emotions, they attract what you think of, with even more force and power, like a magnet.

This is really important because if you want to improve your self confidence, you have to realise that all the thoughts of insecurity and low confidence, when mixed with feelings of fear, apprehension and disappointment will only attract more fear and insecurity and low confidence.

I suggest using the Law of Attraction in a different way... consciously rather than subconsciously.

Choose your thoughts every day. Choose thoughts of confidence and possibility. Mix this thoughts with feelings of gratitude and you will soon realise that your self confidence is improving, simply because you say so. Consciously.

The law of attraction works for BOTH types of people: those who believe they are great and deserve success, and those who believe they are poor and deserve misery or failure. The question is: what do you believe about yourself? And how do you install new thoughts into your mind to attract success instead of failure?

One way is to use affirmations and declarations. Write down positive words, inspirational quotes and motivational sayings on a daily basis. Repeat these over and over again, a few times a day, first thing in the morning, throughout the day and late at night, or before you go to sleep. Make them part of your thinking routine, and eliminate and replace the non supportive thoughts every time you are aware of them.

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How to NEVER be nervous again | Simon Sinek

Mel Robbins The Skill of Confidence & How to Take Control of Your Mind!

Building Confidence Levels Through Mind Control

Have you ever wondered about how you think? Learning to control your thoughts is a very effective personal development technique for building confidence levels. But the problem is that thinking is hard work, and most people seem to want to avoid it at all costs. They would rather leave things to the intuition to help them make decisions.

But in order to make changes in your life, to build confidence levels, boost your self image and self esteem, and do the things that you currently find difficult, you are going to have to make some changes in your habits.

Making Change Easy

But don't panic - these changes can be very easy. I'm going to discuss the different thinking processes, how they work, and how you can benefit from some simple mind control tips.

We use our senses to collect information, and our habits then tell us what to do with that data. What we need to learn about here is how we can make use of it, and what we did last time we experienced the same input.

The first thing we do when new data is processed through our senses is to check if we have experienced it before, and if so, how did we react to it. If we have experienced it before, chances are we will repeat the exact same reaction and create the same feelings and emotions. It's our pre-programmed habitual way of reacting to that situation or environment.

Are You Living Your Life on auto-Pilot?

These auto-pilot habits and reactions can be good or bad, depending on the situation and experience. Some of these habits are very useful - like driving a car. They allow us to drive the car without too much conscious thought and effort. Have you ever arrived at your destination then wondered how on earth you got there? It was you automatic habit that got you there.

So in the case of driving a car, these habits are good. But when it comes to weak and debilitating behaviours, these automatic habits are bad. For example, if you have a habit of being nervous or stressed when you have a lot of tasks to do at work, then this habit is weakening you and holding you back. Or if the thought of having a dinner party fills you with fear and anxiety, this is a weakening habit that is disempowering you.

Your habits are controlling the way you automatically react to all these situations - and you instinctively go along with it without asking yourself why you are reacting that way. But the good news is that weak and disempowering habits and emotions can be changed - and fairly easily too.

How To Have An Interesting Conversation - With Yourself

You start by simply being aware of how you are reacting. Then you ask yourself some probing questions - like "why am I responding in this way?", and "how would I really like to feel when in this situation?" Asking how you would like to feel and respond is a great question to ask, as it allows you visualize the end result. See yourself feeling happy, or confident, or relaxed and in control.

Once you know the end result you want, you might want to ask "what's the best way for me to start to feel that way, or behave that way, or react that way?" It may sound strange but this all hangs on you asking yourself some simple questions, and supplying some answers.

To take control of your thinking process, you simply need to ask questions. These questions are the start of your personal development plan. To get better answers, ask better questions. When you react in a negative way, ask yourself why you are feeling that way, and how you would prefer to feel. Your feelings have a very strong bearing on what you will eventually do to overcome those inhibitions.

So there is a simple technique for building confidence levels. Decide to feel good about something, look for how you can start to feel good about it, and remind yourself to feel good each time you start to feel bad in that situation, and very soon you will form a new and empowering habit which eliminates the old one completely.

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Okay, so you messed up. Now what?

Okay. So you did something wrong. Maybe you made a social blunder; maybe you carried out some task and failed. In short: You messed up.

For people with low confidence, failure can be downright devastating.

I know. Because I used to be ashamed of things I did or said. All the time.

And I’m not talking about calmly realizing one’s wrongdoing and immediately learning from it. I’m talking an involuntary panic-anxiety-attack-like-muscle-spasms-complete-with-grinding-teeth-and-making-noises sorta sensation.

With an inner voice going like: "Screw you! You messed up, and you're useless! You're unable to do anything right, and you should be locked away! You messed up, and that's all you're ever gonna do!"

Every day, several times.

And it doesn’t even have to be something big. It could be a misused word, a social faux pas… anything.

When non-fident people react drastically to making any kind of mistake, it’s because non-fidence is often accompanied by low self-esteem, perfectionism, and insecurity.

When we have low self-esteem, we tend to judge ourselves more vigorously than we would our peers. If we don’t like ourselves, we’re hard on ourselves. Simple as that.

But moreover, if we don’t allow for ourselves to make mistakes, we develop perfectionism. Which, in turn, makes it seem so much worse to us when we do make a mistake. — Or even do something in a manner less than "perfect". (Which, as I’ve written about before, is a BS notion.)

And then there’s the insecurity, which doesn’t allow for much space for mistakes, nor for even trying. This is governed by the amygdala — the reptilian part of our brain — most commonly known for our "fight or flight" mechanism.

See, amongst our primitive ancestors, social identity was way more important than today. Dangers were all around. If you messed up something, it could get you expelled from your tribe and thrown out into the wilderness on your own.

All of this perfectly illustrates the dangerous downward spiral of non-fidence. If we have low regard for ourselves we make less space for ourselves to make mistakes. This, in turn, causes making mistakes to be even more likely, which, then, will only lead to much more self-loathing and shame.

Because we DO make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. We know this perfectly well, yet tend to act like we’re the only flawed person alive.

But here’s the kicker:
Confident people make WAY many more mistakes than less confident people.

The more confident you are, the less regard you give to other people’s opinion about you. The higher you think of yourself, the less you worry about making mistakes. You know perfectly well that your rights outnumber your wrongs. You know perfectly well that you’re able to learn from your mistakes.

Indeed, if you don’t make mistakes, you can never learn. And if you don’t learn, you don’t grow.

In other words:
For every time you messed up something in life, you had the opportunity to learn, grow, and prevent yourself from making the same mistake again.

So get out there and mess up. Badly. Learn, improve, repeat. And as you learn and grow, watch as your confidence grows with you.

ACTION ITEM:

The next time you're embarrassed about something, use the following method:

- Stop what you're doing.
- Breathe. Ten long, deep breaths.
- Think. Realize that whatever negative response on your part are merely thoughts, and that they're not necessarily true, constructive or favourable.
- Choose how you want to feel about what happened. Do you genuinely want to be ashamed? Or would you rather accept, learn, and grow?

The choice is yours.
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