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Independence and Self-Reliance Keys to Happiness

"As the price of liberty is vigilance- so the price of independence is self-determination, the price of dignity is self-assertion, and the price of respect is self-respect," wrote psychiatrist Dr. Thomas Szasz.

Self-determination and self-respect are the necessary keys most unhappy people need to grasp the concept of taking full responsibility for and control over their own lives. Until they find this key, dissatisfied people dream that there is someone else who can make {it better", who can take total care of them, who can be responsible for them more effectively than they can. This condemns them to searching for the person who can protect and care for them.

Self-Reliance and happiness begins when we realize how false and destructive this dream is; when we understand that no one can take care of us better and that only we are responsible for our lives; and when we start to learn effective methods for doing these things ourselves.

By developing self-reliance and independence, which is the ability to take care of and be responsible for yourself, you acquire:

(1) Emotional Competence: The emotional tools necessary to free yourself from dependency. To be responsible is to be able to make effective decisions and choices for yourself, to weigh alternatives, and to evaluate ethical dilemmas and solve problems. When a problem arises, the independent person has acquired the skills it takes to face it squarely, learns as much as possible about it, considers many options, weighs the possible outcome of each option, and perhaps seeks advice and counsel before reaching a decision. As an independent and self-reliant person, you can ask directly for help, but you remain in charge of how much and what kind of help you accept, and you make clear agreements about what is expected in return.

(2) Inner Role Model: When you develop self-reliance and independence within yourself, you also are developing the role models that enable you to choose appropriate friends and a suitable mate. The interaction you have with yourself is a role model for all your other relationships. For example, if you criticize yourself frequently, you're more likely to stay around others who are critical, because it feels familiar.

Likewise, self-reliance and independence in yourself also helps you see it in others. When you have a caring, responsible relationship with yourself, you develop an internal relationship model to use as a basis for your friendships and intimate relationships with others. As you become more experienced at identifying healthy friendships, your circle of good friends grows-beginning with your relationship with yourself, expanding to a few new friends, and eventually growing into a supportive "family" of choice who reinforce your autonomy and independence.

(3) Self-Understanding: You gain the understanding that you are responsible for yourself and must learn whatever you need to make your life successful, functional and happy; rather than waiting around for someone else, or trying to gain another's approval.

Taking care of and being responsible for yourself requires skills that are usually learned in early childhood. However, we don't always get the healthy positive examples we need, so we grow up without the necessary learning. This is not unusual, or entirely the fault of our parents. If you were gradually taught and encouraged to be self-reliant from early childhood, you would learn the necessary skills and attitudes for autonomous living one step at a time. Unfortunately for many of us, our parents were not trained in autonomy either, and could not teach us.

Even the popular idea of parents' "responsibility" for children can be counter-productive. Parents who see their role as controlling their offspring rather than teaching them to make choices on their own, teaches the children dependency rather than independence.

Another reason self-reliance can seem difficult is because most of our society actively discourages it. Media images of love and caring, a parental "I know what's best for you" attitude among helping professionals, religious and political figures, and the generally accepted idea of parents' "duty" create an atmosphere in which independence appears to be selfish and alien. We are taught to value caring for others to the point of martyrdom, and to regard caring for ourselves as "self-centered" and "egotistic".

Children who don't learn caring for others, self-love and self-control (as opposed to guilt and duty) become dependent and insecure adults.

Recovery programs challenge these attitudes by defining caring for others without regard for self as "codependency" and "enabling". Twelve-Step programs such as ACA and Al-Anon have popularized a concept long established in psychology theory: that it is unhealthy to be too dependent on another. However, while all these have indicated that dependency is unhealthy, they haven't yet learned to value self-reliance.

Contrary to what you may think, self-reliance and independence actually enhance relationships with others, and allow giving and receiving to be truly unconditional. Only a person who is fully able to care for him or herself can be free to love and give freely; deprived people give grudgingly.

High on Learning

As children, our natural curiosity is powerful. In fact, young children are small "learning machines". Their whole being is focused on learning through their five senses. Research shows that children are "turned on" by situations in which they can learn. Their bodies produce hormones such as adrenaline and endorphins-natural substances that produce a "natural high"-the body's own, internal motivation and reward system for learning.

When faced with a new experience, as long as they feel safe and unthreatened, young children are highly motivated to explore and learn. Secure toddlers are irresistibly drawn to bright colors, new sounds, and new experiences-they find your jingling car keys fascinating. To a child who has supportive, loving, functional parents, the world is a fun, safe place to be, and learning is exciting, and exhilarating. Children who feel secure are compelled by their joy in learning to venture forth, to begin to take small risks, and begin to act independently of their parents. It is in taking these risks, under parental supervision and support at first, and increasingly independently as the child grows older, that the necessary skills of self-reliance are first learned.

Independence grows out of these healthy learning experiences. Through taking risks, we learn how to solve problems, and also how to deal effectively with disappointment and failure. When we have learned these skills, our experiences with life are successful, producing confidence that we can rely on ourselves to experiment, to solve new problems we encounter, and to comfort our disappointment and correct our mistakes. When we know these things, we know we can take care of ourselves.

Frightened, insecure children, on the other hand, are dependent on the adults around them. Their world is too insecure to risk, and they look to others to solve their problems and care for their feelings. Being unaware of your motives, feelings, wants and internal dialogue leaves you out of control, unable to figure out how to satisfy yourself. It is, indeed as though you don't own your life, as though someone else must run it.

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Are You Ready to Build a Solid Foundation?

Invest a little time to introspect and ask yourself - "How strong is the foundation of your life right now"? "Are you content that you have built a rock solid base, from which you can launch your future success"? I believe the foundation of your life is built on your values, which are comprised of your character, integrity, belief, loyalty and honesty. To truly be successful in life you need to ensure that you have a foundation, which is harmonious and based on all the crucial elements of your personal values.

I have seen people compromise on their values, where they have walked all over other people to acquire great financial wealth, using deceit as a tool for their success. These people appear to have all the flashings, which go with success, but they lack true friends and deep relationships with people, who matter. There are also those business professionals, who invest so much time into their corporate lives that they alienate their families, as they climb the corporate ladder. Or the business tycoon, who has acquired great financial wealth, but is lying alone in his bed in the hospital recovering from his second triple heart bypass operation. None of these people have an understanding of balance and harmony in their lives.

You must Invite Harmony or Balance into your Life

As my experience grows and the more I see people around me compromise on their values. Where they live lives, which are out of sync with the harmony and balance in the universe, the more convinced I become that we have a responsibility to not only focus on one element in our lives, at the expense of any other. We must strive for harmony and always remain in alignment with our authentic self. We can never be content or fulfilled, if we live in a place which is unbalanced or out of sync with the universe or our own inner values. Your values are the cornerstone of your happiness and contentment.

As you know, We are thinkers and Doers

We all think thoughts, which drive our actions or lack thereof. As you know we also act according to our most dominant thoughts. So if your dominant thoughts are focused on lack, negativity or losing, that is exactly what you will get to see in your life. I believe that we are all wonderful creators and winners in our own unique and special way. So if you want to achieve success and meaning in your life, you must act in alignment with your values and must remain focused on thinking positive developmental thoughts.

Now is the time to Think better thoughts

You are where you are, because of what you have thought up until now. So if you want to change where you are going to end up one year, five years or even ten years from now, you must change the way you think. Your thinking drives your choices and decisions, which in turn determine the actions you take or fail to take and as the actions you take or fail to take, determine the results you experience. The obvious way to improve your results is to change the way you think.

Build your Foundation Stones?

Invest some time to think about your values or the foundation stones I have described earlier in this article, namely character, integrity, belief, loyalty and honesty. These make up the raw materials your mind uses to create all its thinking. You are at the core of all your thinking. So as you can imagine your thoughts determine, what you have, what you do and are the key factors determining the results you will get to enjoy in your life.

They are effectively the code, which determines how your life will turn out in the end. Unlimited opportunity resides within you. It is time to accept that success is not a result of chance, but choice. Make the wiser choice right now and choose to be authentic, live according to your true values and success is yours for the taking.

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Growing Through A Life Transition

1. Wanting to change or improve a certain aspect of your life.
2. Wanting a major overhaul or being impacted to reflect a major life overhaul.
3. Accepting change and planning for what you want.
4. Focusing on what could go wrong.
5. Resisting the change and staying numb.
6. Growing with the change and having the right support for success and happiness.

Being connected to what you want naturally enables you to reach out for what you want.

Being disconnected from what you want leaves you to fulfil the needs of everyone around you.

How you exist for yourself and with others is a balanced act.

Knowing what you want and deciding to take action to reach for what you want empowers you.

Not knowing what you want and agreeing with everyone around you as they take decisions on your behalf sets you up for a trap.

I am not referring to co-dependency where 2 people merge and uniqueness is lost. I am referring to being in charge and responsible for your life. I mean all of it.

If you don't know what you want or what you need how are you ever going to know when you are fulfilled, satisfied and happy?

If you give the responsibility of your life to another person to make you happy and to make sure that you are on track affectionately or financially I have one question for you.

What will you do when this person will no longer be there?

The reality is that separations, divorces and deaths are part of life.

When a person is impacted by another person's decision or by an unfortunate situation it does weaken their esteem. No doubt.

When a person takes a decision he or she is empowered because it is a choice. Having taken the decision makes a person feel in control. If the decision was taken from ignorance or a disconnected place there will be regrets.

When the decision is taken from an unshakeable place within the person is aligned with life. The path ahead is cleared up and it is struggle free. I am not saying obstacle free. Struggling and overcoming an obstacle are different in their energy. A struggle will take its energy from the ego and it will leave you feeling tired. On the other hand an obstacle will call on the muscle of courage and faith and with the right community support the obstacle will be surpassed.

In both of these cases, whether a person took the decision or was impacted by the decision of another person, are both a beginning of a transition.

For the person that took a decision the change makes sense. This person will feel in control.

For the person that was impacted it does not make sense. This person will not feel in control.

Both situations will have their share of stress or worry. 

What are life transitions?

• Being born
• Being single transitioning to living as a couple
• Living as a couple transitioning to being single
• Being a mother or father transitioning to family expansion
• Expanded family transitioning to living alone or living with a spouse (grown children leaving home / split family from separation or divorce)
• Being unemployed transitioning to working
• Working transitioning to another job and adapting to a new environment
• Being employed transitioning to being a business owner
• Business owner transitioning through business expansion
• Working or owning a business transitioning to retirement
• Retirement transitioning to leisure activities or to never retiring
• Dying and living in another dimension

Transitions are part of the natural stages of life.

Transformations that makes sense for you asks you to believe in yourself through resilience capitalizing on all the victories you have had up to this point in your life.

A good community support helps and enables you to live the successful transformation that you want.

Connect With Your Heart,

Yvonne St-Louis

Yvonne has helped men and women through their life transition. A responsible compassion leads you to let go of the stress and the pressure caused by the psychological structural tension caused by change. Through changes there is stress. It's a part of change. There is a good stress and there is also being distressed which is not so good.

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I Am

"I am... " is an amazingly small but powerful statement. If you become aware of your spoken words and unspoken thoughts, you will find that you and these two words are very intimate. This small statement is so powerful because it is a declaration. When you say, "I am... " you are declaring it so! You are making a proclamation to the world, to the Universe, to your higher power, to others and to yourself!

Unfortunately, most of the "I am's" are derogatory. Do you believe me? How about you pay attention to your thoughts and words for an hour and see if I am right. I bet you will say or think at least one thing negative to or about yourself in that time. Here are just a few examples: I am so fat. I am stupid. I am never on time. I am confused. I am not good enough. I am so mean sometimes. I am really behind on the housework. I am not a good cook. I am so forgetful. I am scared. I am sick. I am not good enough. The list goes on and on. Do any of these statements ring true to you? Do you find that you are constantly badgering yourself? Sometimes these statements are simply feelings, and not actually spoken or thought, but they are still a declaration of who you think you are!

Consider this:

What if you used your words to empower yourself?
What if you caught yourself using the "I am" in a negative way
and immediately turned it around so that you were not putting yourself down?

Let's use a little example here: You are doing the dishes and you accidentally drop and break one. These words immediately fly out of your mouth: "God, I am so clumsy!" While you are cleaning up the broken glass, you say and think, "I am so stupid! Now, I am going to be really late! I am so dumb!" Think about how all those negative words are declaring who you are. Is that what you want to project about yourself... that you are clumsy, stupid, late, and dumb? I don't think that is a picture we want to paint of ourselves. These "I am's" will follow you around all day!

What if we looked at the same situation through different glasses? Let's see what that same scenario would look like with a different set of "I am's": You are doing the dishes and you accidentally drop and break one. These words immediately fly out of your mouth: "Wow, I am so quick with the dishes, it flew out of my hand and I didn't even realize it!" While you are cleaning up the broken glass, you say and think, "I am so efficient, I will clean this up quickly so I am on time. I am so great at cleaning." So... same situation... healthier words and attitude... Now you are projecting that you are quick, efficient, on time, and great at cleaning.

Which scenario feels better to you? Which proclamations help your self esteem and self concept? Which words feed your soul and which words take away? Is your face light and happy or scowling and angry? What is your breathing doing? What about your heart rate and your adrenaline? Are you releasing poisonous toxins into your body by being mean with yourself, or are you smiling and releasing healthy endorphins? Are you being judgmental or loving? Are you blaming or being accepting? No matter what your reaction is, the event is still the same... just an event... how you respond is where the power is.

When you say mean things to yourself, those words have a tendency to hang on and follow you through your day... even your week... and sometimes even longer. When you say nice things to yourself, it gives you the freedom and permission to move forward and to not dwell on the circumstance that you just braved through. You get to "let it go". Being nice allows you to laugh at yourself, to forgive yourself, and to be kind and loving to yourself. Doesn't that feel better than berating yourself?

When we make these "I am" statements, we need to ask ourselves if we are breathing truth. I believe we are really ultra critical of ourselves, we are our own worst critics... and we need to stop! Saying nasty things to ourselves is not nice, and we allow it for some reason. We would never allow someone else to speak to us the way we do, and that's the truth! (If you do allow others to speak to you in a mean way... that's a whole other issue!)

Take Action: This week and moving forward, let's monitor the way we think and talk to ourselves. When we say mean and demeaning things, let's immediately replace those hurtful words with kind and loving truths. "I am" is so powerful, but let's use our power for good and not for evil. We all deserve it!

Because Together is Better,

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How to Create Life Balance Between Dreams and Habits

The greatest achievement was at first and for a time a dream. The oak sleeps in the acorn; the bird sleeps in the egg; and in the highest vision of the soul, a waking angel stirs. Dreams are the seedlings of realities…”

— James Allen

One of the huge imbalances in life is the disparity between your daily existence, with its routines and habits, and the dream you have deep within yourself of some extraordinarily satisfying way of living.

In the quote that opens this [article], James Allen poetically explains that the dream is the magical realm out of which newly created life emerges. Buried within you is an unlimited capacity for creation, what Allen calls “a waking angel” that’s anxious to plant seedlings to fulfill your dreams and your destiny.

True imagination is not fanciful daydreaming, it is fire from heaven.”
— Ernest Holmes

I simply couldn’t resist adding the Ernest Holmes quote describing this dynamic imagination as “fire from heaven.”

They’re both appropriate invitations and reminders that you need to tend to that burning fire, the dream within you, if living a balanced life is important.

How This Imbalance Shows Up in Your Life

This absence of balance between dreams and habits may be very subtle. It doesn’t necessarily reveal itself in the obvious symptoms of heartburn, depression, illness, or anxiety—it’s more often something that feels like an unwelcome companion by your side, which continually whispers to you that you’re ignoring something.

There’s some often-unidentifiable task or experience that you sense is part of your beingness. It may seem intangible, but you can feel the longing to be what you’re intended to be. You sense that there’s a higher agenda; your way of life and your reason for life are out of balance. Until you pay attention, this subtle visitor will continue to prod you to regain your equilibrium.

Think of a balance scale with one side weighted down and the other side up, like a teeter-totter with an obese child on one end and a skinny kid on the other. In this case, the heavy end that tips the scale out of balance is the overweight kid representing your everyday behaviors: the work you do, the place where you reside, the people with whom you interact, your geographic location, the books you read, the movies you see, and the conversations that fill up your life.

It’s not that any of these things are bad in and of themselves. The imbalance exists because they’re unhealthy for your particular life—they simply don’t mesh with what you’ve imagined yourself to be.

When it’s unhealthy, it’s wrong, and on some level you feel that. When you live your life going through the motions, it may seem to be convenient, but the weight of your dissatisfaction creates a huge imbalance in the only life you have now.

You’re perplexed by the ever-present gnawing feeling of dissatisfaction that you can’t seem to shake, that pit-of-the-stomach sensation of emptiness. It shows up when you’re sound asleep and your dreams are filled with reminders of what you’d love to be, but you wake and return to pursuing your safe routine.

Your dreams are also demanding your attention in waking life when you’re petulant and argumentative with others, because in actuality you’re so frustrated with yourself that you try to relieve the pressure by venting anger outward.

Imbalance masquerades as a sense of frustration with your current lifestyle. If you allow yourself to think about this “fire from heaven,” you proceed to rationalize your status quo with explanations and mental meanderings that you know in your heart are excuses because you don’t think you have the tools to get in balance.

You may get to a point where you become increasingly hard on yourself and begin seeking medication and other treatment for feelings of inadequacy—and for what’s called depression. You’ll surely witness yourself feeling more and more angry and moody, with more frequent occurrences of minor afflictions such as colds, headaches, and insomnia. As time goes on in this state of imbalance, there’s less enthusiasm for what has become the drudgery of life.

Work is now even more routine, with even less purpose and drive. These blahs begin appearing in your behavior toward your family and those you love. You’re easily agitated, picking on others for no apparent reason. If you’re able to be honest with yourself, you recognize that your irritability stems from being out of balance with the bigger dream you’ve always had, but which is now apparently slipping away.

When these subtle symptoms surface, it’s crucial to explore the kind of energy you’re giving to the scale to create balance—or in this case, imbalance. The heavy angst is weighing down your reason for being—but you are the only one who can re-balance this scale of your life.

Here are some tools to help you return to a balanced life, beginning with recognizing the ways in which you may be sabotaging yourself.

How to Create Balance Between Dreams & Habits

Your desire to be and live from greatness is an aspect of your spiritual energy. In order to create balance in this area of your life, you have to use the energy of your thoughts to harmonize with what you desire. Your mental energy attracts what you think about. Thoughts that pay homage to frustration will attract frustration.

When you say or think anything resembling ‘There’s nothing I can do; my life has spun out of control, and I’m trapped,’ that’s what you’ll attract—that is, resistance to your highest desires!

Every thought of frustration is like purchasing a ticket for more frustration. Every thought that agrees that you’re stuck is asking the Universe to send you even more of that glue to keep you stuck.

The single most important tool to being in balance is knowing that you and you alone are responsible for the imbalance between what you dream your life is meant to be, and the daily habits that drain life from that dream.

You can create a new alignment with your mental energy and instruct the Universe to send opportunities to correct this imbalance.

When you do so, you discover that while the world of reality has its limits, the world of your imagination is without boundaries. Out of this boundless imagination comes the seedling of a reality that’s been crying out to be restored to a balanced environment.

Restoring the Balance Between Dreams & Habits

The objective of this principle is to create a balance between dreams and habits. The least complicated way to begin is to recognize the signs of habitual ways of being, and then learn to shift your thinking to being in balance with your dreams. So what are your dreams?

What is it that lives within you that’s never gone away? What inner night-light continues to glow, even if it’s only a glimmer, in your thoughts and dreams? Whatever it is, however absurd it may seem to others, if you want to restore the balance between your dreams and your habits, you need to make a shift in the energy that you’re contributing to your dreams.

If you’re out of balance, it’s primarily because you’ve energetically allowed your habits to define your life. Those habits, and the consequences thereof, are the result of the energy you’ve given them.

In the early stages of the re-balancing process, concentrate on this awareness: You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Commit to thinking about what you want, rather than how impossible or difficult that dream may seem.

Give your personal dreams a place to hang out on the balance scale so that you can see them in your imagination and they can soak up the energy they deserve.

Thoughts Are Mental Currency — Spend It Wisely

Thoughts are mental energy; they’re the currency that you have to attract what you desire. You must learn to stop spending that currency on thoughts you don’t want, even though you may feel compelled to continue your habitual behavior.

You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Commit to thinking about what you want, rather than how impossible or difficult that dream may seem.
— Dr. Wayne Dyer

Your body might continue, for a while, to stay where it’s been trained to be, but meanwhile, thoughts are being aligned with your dreams. The esteemed 19th-century writer Louisa May Alcott phrases this idea in an encouraging and inspiring manner:

Far away in the sunshine are my highest inspirations.
I may not reach them, but I can look up and see the beauty,
believe in them and try to follow where they lead…
— Louisa May Alcott

Choosing to restore a semblance of balance between your dreams and your habits seems possible with Ms. Alcott’s phrases in mind: “look up and see,” and “believe in them.” The words bring to life an energetic alignment.

Rather than putting your thoughts on what is, or what you’ve habitually thought for a lifetime, you shift to looking up and seeing, and firmly believing in what you see.

When you begin to think in this manner, the Universe conspires to work with you, and sends you precisely what you’re thinking and believing. It doesn’t always happen instantaneously, but once the realignment is initiated in your thoughts, you’ve begun being in balance.

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