Mindset! Where Is Yours Because It Is absolute Key for Releasing Potential!

 

Why Mindset Is Everything: The Key to Unlocking Your Potential

If there’s one truth that separates those who grow, achieve, and thrive from those who stay stuck, it’s this: your mindset shapes your reality.

Every decision, every relationship, every opportunity — even how you respond to challenges — stems from how you think.
Your mindset is the lens through which you interpret the world, and that lens determines whether you see possibilities or problems, lessons or losses, growth or failure.

When you change your mindset, you don’t just think differently — you live differently.

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Understanding Mindset: Fixed vs. Growth

Psychologist Carol Dweck popularized the idea of two core mindsets: fixed and growth.

• A fixed mindset believes our abilities and intelligence are set — that we’re either talented or not, smart or not, capable or not.

• A growth mindset believes our potential can expand through effort, learning, and persistence.

The difference may seem subtle, but it changes everything.
When you have a growth mindset, failure becomes feedback. Effort becomes progress.
Instead of asking, “Can I do this?” you start asking, “How can I learn to do this?”

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The Hidden Power of Beliefs

Your beliefs are like the software running silently in the background of your life.
If you believe you’re not good enough, that belief filters every experience — no matter how much evidence suggests otherwise.

But when you start believing that you can learn, adapt, and evolve, your entire energy shifts. You start to notice opportunities instead of obstacles.
You take small risks. You act. You grow.

And that’s where potential unlocks — not from perfection, but from permission: the permission to try, fail, and rise again.

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Real-Life Examples: Mindset in Action

1. Michael Jordan — Turning Rejection Into Fuel
In high school, Michael Jordan was cut from the basketball team. That could have shattered his confidence. Instead, he used it as motivation to train harder. His mindset wasn’t “I failed,” but “I’ll come back stronger.” The result? One of the greatest athletes in history — not because he never failed, but because he refused to stop learning.

2. J.K. Rowling — Rewriting Her Story
Before Harry Potter became a global phenomenon, Rowling faced poverty, rejection, and depression. Thirteen publishers turned her down. She later said, “Failure meant a stripping away of the inessential.” Her mindset shifted from fear to purpose — she wrote because she had to, not because she was certain of success.

3. Nelson Mandela — Transforming Pain Into Purpose
After spending 27 years in prison, Mandela emerged not with hatred but with vision. He once said, “I never lose. I either win or learn.” That’s the essence of growth mindset — the ability to turn even suffering into strength.

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How Your Mindset Shapes Your Life

1. Your Thoughts Create Your Emotions
   What you think about shapes how you feel. If you believe a situation is hopeless, your emotions follow that story. Change the narrative, and you change the energy behind your actions.

2. Your Emotions Drive Your Behavior
   When you feel capable, you act with courage. When you feel defeated, you retreat. The mindset you nurture becomes the momentum you live with.

3. Your Behavior Shapes Your Results
   Over time, consistent actions create outcomes — and outcomes reinforce beliefs. This is the feedback loop that defines your life.

In short:

Change your thoughts → influence your emotions → drive better actions → achieve stronger results.

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Five Ways to Cultivate a Growth Mindset

1. Reframe Challenges as Opportunities

Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” ask, “What is this teaching me?”
This simple shift turns resistance into growth.

2. Replace “I Can’t” with “I Can Learn”

When you say “I can’t,” your brain shuts down to possibility.
When you say “I can learn,” it opens pathways to problem-solving and creativity.

3. Embrace the Process, Not Just the Outcome

Growth doesn’t happen in leaps — it happens in layers.
Focus on progress, not perfection. Each small win compounds into confidence.

4. Surround Yourself with Expanders

Spend time with people who challenge your thinking and uplift your energy.
When you see others striving, learning, and evolving, it rewires what you believe is possible for yourself.

5. Celebrate Learning Moments, Not Just Successes

Mistakes are proof you’re stretching. Each “failure” is a brick in the foundation of your next breakthrough.

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The Science Behind a Growth Mindset

Neuroscience shows that our brains are neuroplastic — capable of forming new neural connections throughout life.
Every time you learn something new, practice a skill, or face a challenge, your brain literally rewires itself.

That means mindset isn’t fixed — it’s flexible.
Every new thought, every brave action, every small decision shapes how your mind sees the world.

When you adopt a growth mindset, you aren’t pretending challenges are easy — you’re simply choosing to see them as meaningful.

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When You Feel Doubt — Remember This

Everyone faces moments of fear, failure, and frustration. The difference between those who rise and those who stay stuck isn’t luck — it’s perspective.

You can’t control every circumstance, but you can always control how you respond.
And that response begins with mindset.

When you start thinking like someone who can grow, you naturally act like someone who is growing.

It’s not about being fearless; it’s about being faithful to your growth.

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Final Thoughts: The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything

Mindset is everything because it’s the root of everything — your decisions, your resilience, your energy, your confidence.

When you start to think differently, you begin to live differently.
You stop waiting for external motivation and start generating it from within.

So today, ask yourself:

“What if I believed I could handle whatever comes next?”

Because you can.
And that belief — simple as it sounds — is the key that unlocks your potential.

Dr Joe Dispenza - Break the Addiction to Negative Thoughts & Emotions

Personal Development helps many through practice, determination & persistence. Sometimes, more is needed though when negative thinking is a constant block. Always be open to trying something new, Dr Joe Dispenza explains how this can be achieved through meditations. Enjoy!

How to Gain Back Control of Your Life! - You got to, you've just got to!!!! Love Bob Procter!

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Finding My Wings

FINDING MY WINGS.

I’m probably going to get fired if I send this text,” I said to my husband, Mike.

“That’s never stopped you before,” he replied.

“You’re right,” I responded and hit send without hesitation.

You see, growing up, I was always an incredibly optimistic person with big dreams to make a huge difference in the world, and nothing ever stopped me. Yes, I realize many people feel this way, but for me it was an overwhelming driving force, dictating and controlling every life decision I made. I felt I had a great destiny, which granted me tremendous confidence and an unwavering need to follow my heart. I always fight for what’s right no matter the consequences.

I’ve abandoned incredibly successful careers, moved cities, spent hundreds of hours learning new skills, and held more new titles than I have fingers, never backing down and never regretting a decision—all in pursuit of my great destiny. The problem was that I had no idea what my destiny actually was.

Time passed and I was working as a fashion makeover producer on a popular television show. I loved my job, but I didn’t always agree with their work ethic. Most of the time, I could tolerate and justify it—the trade-off was that I was making a massive difference in women’s lives. Yet, when I was asked to turn a blind eye to something incredibly questionable, I couldn’t just stand idly by anymore and accept it. However, my protest fell on deaf ears.

Not willing to let it go, I made a final appeal via the fateful text. It was a miracle I wasn’t fired. Instead, a fair and right decision was made. I had won the battle, yet somehow, I had lost the war. Any enthusiasm I previously had for the production seemed to disappear after this day. I was no longer able to look the other way. My rose-colored glasses were lost, and it was time for me to move on.

Still in love with the idea of working in television, I felt my only option was to set my sights even higher: Oprah Winfrey higher. Go big or go home, I thought. Determined to get her attention and a job working for her, I wrote the most awe-inspiring cover letter I’d ever written, meticulously choosing every word to prove I was unmistakably an obvious choice.

Feeling proud of my work of art, I printed the letter to make one final check for mistakes. I couldn’t risk going unnoticed by a simple spelling error. Yet, the moment I held the letter, an uneasy, anxious feeling swept over me—a hesitation I’d never encountered before. I actually wondered if the confusing feelings were self-doubt. Didn’t I think I could get the job? I thought.

No way . . . you’re a self-professed Type A personality on overdrive, and you’ve never failed at anything you wanted, I bragged to myself.

Then why am I hesitating? Don’t I want the job? I apprehensively questioned. I sat for a few minutes and then an overwhelming rush of emotions came over, “OMG—I don’t!” I gasped aloud.

It was just that fast. In one split second, my overconfident swagger had quickly turned into devastating clarity. It was an unnerving and confusing feeling. If I didn’t want to work for Oprah, but I also unquestionably knew I couldn’t continue working where I was, what was I supposed to do now? More importantly, who was I supposed to be?

For the first time in my life, I didn’t have the answers and felt like a complete failure. It crushed me. In the months that followed, I began to isolate myself. I didn’t eat, I hardly slept, and I cried continuously. I had spiraled into a black hole and didn’t know how to find my way out. Then like a beacon of hope, an unexpected email hit my inbox. An old friend and mentor I hadn’t heard from in years asked to see me.

I was happy to hear from her but felt too depressed to meet. I decided to reply with a dismissive excuse. However, her persistent emails would eventually sway me, and I agreed to meet at her home. The moment she saw me, she knew something was wrong—even with my best attempt to hide my pain.

Before I knew it, I was confessing everything to her: the fateful text, the unsent cover letter, the devastating discovery, confusion, and sheer depression. She just listened.

Three emotional hours later, my friend decided it was my turn to listen. Compassionately, she acknowledged my pain. She told me she admired my determination and tenacity and had enjoyed watching me move from one successful career to the next, always in search of my great destiny, yet never finding it. Then very directly, she admitted she always felt like I’d missed looking in one very important place.

“Where?” I asked, completely oblivious to what she was referring to.

“Inside your heart,” she answered. “You’ve never stopped to ask yourself what you want or what your true passion is.”

“This breakdown, Heidi, is no more than a gift for you to finally discover what you’ve always been looking for,” she explained.

“I wouldn’t call what I’m going through a gift,” I wept, feeling very sorry for myself and deflated by her response. I also insisted I didn’t even know where to start.

“Give me a minute,” she answered and left the room. When she returned, she handed me a pad of paper and two blue pencils. Puzzled by the items, I asked what she expected me to do with them. “Start by getting to know yourself a little better. Make you a priority and schedule a meeting with yourself every week,” she explained.

I had journaled in the past, but I was unsure of my friend’s meeting advice. Yet, so desperate to feel better, I agreed to try it. The following Wednesday I met with myself for the first time. I actually wrote non-stop for an hour. My words were raw, painful, and incredibly vulnerable. I wrote about how angry I was at myself, my job, my life, and the overwhelming pressure I felt to make a difference. I questioned my confidence, my decisions, and most of all, I questioned Why me?

How is this supposed to be helping me? I cried to myself. The meeting had felt more like torture.

The following week, to avoid the same torment, I decided to eliminate any and all emotional thought. I was determined to keep it extremely professional. I created several pro/con lists, wrote about my likes and dislikes, and set numerous goals. It was a left-brain fiesta party that even my emotionally-driven right- brain enjoyed.

Huh. Maybe this could work, I smugly thought.

For weeks I continued the meetings. For some, I was able to keep them super organized, whereas others still fell off track and left me feeling emotionally weak again. Yet, something was changing. I started to notice that random conversations and opportunities began feeling more like coincidental messages, each one guiding me like signposts to understand who I was and what I was meant to do.

Then, as if the answer had always been there, I knew what I was supposed to do. It was unbelievably clear, and I couldn’t wait to tell someone.

“I feel I’m supposed to start a blog,” I confessed to my husband.

“Really?” A blog about what?” he asked, a little surprised by my announcement.

“I believe I’m meant to share my stories,” I answered, feeling really sure about my path.

“Cool! You have amazing stories. What are you going to call it?” he questioned, always being my biggest fan and supporter.

“I hadn’t really thought of a name,” I answered and looked down at my notepad for clues.

Surprisingly, three words immediately stood out like neon signs from random places on the paper. As I wrote the words on the bottom of the page, I said the name aloud, “Positive People Army.”

My husband chuckled, “Well, I didn’t expect to hear that. What’s the Positive People Army?”

As I stared at the words, an overwhelming rush of both fear and excitement took my breath away and made my skin tingle.

“Heidi, did you hear me? What’s the Positive People Army?” he asked again, trying to get my attention.

When I finally exhaled, I felt like I’d let go of a lifetime of holding my breath. It was unbelievably powerful and exhilarating. I felt awake.

“Are you okay?” Mike asked, looking a little confused by my reaction.

When I finally composed myself, I admitted to Mike I’d never been better. A few weeks later, I launched the Positive People Army blog with its first story. I still didn’t understand what the PPA was, but I had faith the answers would come.

In the coming months, hundreds of people found the website. It felt amazing to connect with so many people and to make a positive difference together. I felt alive. What I’ve come to learn is we are not born with a perfectly clear answer as to what our purpose is. It’s a struggle almost every person goes through—a struggle because we become so distracted by work, daily commitments, goals, and other people’s opinions. Our awareness of our unique life purpose is easily dimmed, leaving us feeling lost, lonely, unfulfilled, and depressed.

No matter how noisy the world gets or how hard the darkness seems, we need to remember there is always a small voice whispering. That voice is you, waiting to be heard and acknowledged. Just like Glenda, the Good Witch told Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, “You’ve always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself.”

I did eventually leave my job, and the Positive People Army has grown into an incredible positive movement. All because I chose to listen to my heart and my purpose, my destiny appeared. So, I ask all of you, are you ready to listen to that voice inside you? The world is waiting to hear.

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Lessons From Coffee: What Do I Want?

When you walk into your favorite coffee place in the morning, I doubt that the first thing on your mind is, "How are the coffee bean plantations doing today?" If you are a true coffee aficionado, you may know that your preferred beans come from Columbia or Nicaragua, but you probably don't worry much about the well-being of the coffee growers.

But companies such as Starbucks, Keurig Green Mountain, Illycaffe and others who rely on coffee beans for their very existence and continued growth, do. Coffee plantations world-wide have been experiencing unusual fluctuations in heat, rain and other environmental factors, which impact the available supply of beans for - guess what - your cup of joe! And those companies are investing boots-on-the-ground, as well as substantial funds, to help local coffee-growers find solutions to their issues.

Why should you care? Beyond caring about the price of your coffee-addiction doubling or tripling in the very near future... because these companies are demonstrating an approach to their problems that we all should be mindful of when approaching our own.

Too often, we expend entirely too much energy on bemoaning a problem: you can't find a job, your current job is lame, your boyfriend/girlfriend left you for another, the economy is trashed, politics are killing us all, what's that rash on your elbow?, your cell died in the middle of an important call... need I go on?

Problems! We all have them, of all kinds, shapes and sizes. Just like the coffee companies. And we need to do more of what they do: invest boots-on-the-ground and funds in getting creative. Looking beyond the problem to creative ways of addressing whatever the situation. Boots-on-the-ground would mean doing your research, on the web or in brainstorming with friends. Reading books (there's a thought!), meditating on the question, seeking advice from those who've had similar issues. Funds? Well, that's obvious. Take classes, seminars, get training of one sort or another, invest in a path that will take you past the issue.

It all starts with how you think about your issue. With getting off the blame-game, the "woe-is-me" pity party, the "it's impossible" litany, just dumping that entire way of looking at things, and adopting the "It is what it is. Fine. Here's what I want, let's get on with it."

Key words? "Here's what I want," rather than "Here's what I don't want." That simple change in semantics will change the direction of your thought, which in turn, will get you on the path to resolving your issue, whatever it is.

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If Only You Believe - Why It Matters

Human nature may be defined by two groups, those whose focus is on the probabilities in life and those who dare to focus on the possibilities. The possibility group is always focused on what can be possible while the probability group denies the existence of anything they cannot see, touch or test. For many in the latter group extraordinary events, even miracles are often pooh poohed and mocked. Impossible, they say! And for them it may be.

Our planet has recently entered the outer bands of multi-dimensional energy. The possibility believers will notice the changes first. Things that others called impossible begin to manifest before their eyes! Information and events they have longed for and dreamed of can soon become reality as cures to difficult diseases seem to appear in totally unexpected ways. Information will arrive to those who are seeking answers even though they may not recognize the source, they simply know this may work; and it will. Aging will be dramatically slowed, not by fancy products but by people who learn to move into this new energy. Life spans will be lengthened while the quality of life is greatly enhanced. The physician within will be heard and acknowledged. All these possibilities are likely to be deemed as nonsense, impossible even, by those probability believers. Why does it matter what you believe?

Look carefully at events that have transpired in your own life. Look closely at events that happened to others, events that caused you to search deeply for how it could have happened. Those are the times you were confronted by the differences in what you believe. Colonel Sanders is a great example. This senior citizen may have been the only believer in possibilities, yet he persevered forward to become a household name. The same is true of Mary Kay, a host of artists, authors and even world leaders. Their legacy is defined by what they were willing to believe; they became a part of the rich history of world events. Imagine how different history would have been written if not for these possibility believers!

What is the real difference in these two groups? Probability believers are severely limited to what they can achieve or become in life. Everyone's opportunities in life are limited to what they can accept as reality, now or in the future. Those who rebuff possibilities are limited to what they already know, what they already believe is possible. Their focus does not extend beyond 'practicality' unless they are forced to seek a miracle. This often happens in doctors' offices and hospitals where the unthinkable has arrived on their horizon and crashed into their lives. No one knows anything that can help a desperate situation and suddenly, they look beyond the probabilities which are unacceptable.

People who are creative and in touch with harmony and the energy around them are the strongest examples of possibility believers and they affect our lives. They are always on a quest for something new; a new design, a new idea, a new way forward. They can become strong problem solvers because they routinely look beyond the obvious. Benjamin Franklin, Albert Einstein and Thomas Edison are among the more famous of those who affected our world because they dared to believe in what might be possible.

If you are willing to remove the self-imposed limits on what might be possible, dispose of the idea that others may find you frivolous or uninformed, you will be poised to take a leap of faith directly into energy that is more magical than we ever dared believe! Obstacles can easily be disposed of while solutions arrive unexpectedly. Miracle shall follow miracle and wonders shall never cease, if only you can believe.

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Tony Robbins: Understand This And You Will Achieve Anything!

Four Steps on Surviving Job Loss

Loss of Routine

Most people don't realize how important routine can be in our lives. That morning cup of coffee you carry to your desk or workspace, your favorite break and lunchtime routine, the other people you encounter in everyday interactions, and the full calendar that organizes your work time are things you may not be aware of unless something goes wrong and you are annoyed. But all the things that go smoothly on a daily basis and pass beyond your attention or awareness, are what you'll miss when they're gone. The enormity of this loss can be a total surprise because you may have been resenting the time at work which makes it even more upsetting.

To cope during your search for a new job, give yourself a chance to grieve for your old job. Spend a little time noticing everything that you miss. Replicate whatever you can; get up at the same time, make yourself the morning latte you would get on the way to work, take a lunch break at a regular time, perhaps go out to a coffee house with your laptop to do job search, so you're around other people and don't feel so alone. Establish a routine for job search, so it's not hit and miss, and feels more like the time structure of a job. Also focus on using the extra time you have in constructive ways. In addition to job search, explore some of the hobbies and pastimes you wished you could do when you were so busy working. This is a great time to clean out some closets or start that patio container garden you've been thinking about.

Watch your self-talk

If you are prone to periods of depression, learn to watch what you're silently telling yourself. It's a major factor in depression; and job loss can trigger a flood of self-blame. Everyone has running dialog in their heads, which can be negative and self-defeating, or positive and energizing. If these messages are negative, you will feel dissatisfied and depressed, and it will bleed out in what you say to others, and how you appear on job interviews. The good news is that you can choose to replace your negative monologue with something more positive. Self-talk is the most powerful tool you have for turning your negative feelings to positive and your negative interactions with others into positive exchanges.

Take charge of your negative thoughts (that's one thing totally in your control) and turn them around: argue with them, fight them off, wrestle with them. Put energy into it. Let go of whatever you can't control such as other people, life's events, loss, disappointment. Stop trying to change what won't change, accept what is, let it be and live life as it is. I know it's easier said than done, but once you get a handle on it, life itself is easier. Fretting about what you can't control is an endless, useless waste of energy you can use elsewhere.

To stop blaming yourself for your job loss, go through those thoughts one at a time and rebut them. You can analyze what went wrong and what went right without being negative about yourself. Most job losses are not the laid-off person's fault, they're corporate financial decisions. If you think you might have been able to forestall this loss by getting more pro-active, or looking for a new job while you were still employed, then become determined to do that now.

Don't collapse and mope around

Don't sink into apathetic laziness and hopelessness. If you take some time off, treat it like a vacation. Don't just mope around home, go out and do things. Be active. Network with friends and family for job search and fun. Go through your wardrobe, and clean out things that are no longer useful. Go over your work attire and make sure it's ready for job interviews and that new gig. This is a great time to think "out with the old, in with the new" as you clean and clear your closets or your home, it can symbolize letting go of the old situation and preparing for the new. This is a great time, especially if your subsidized by unemployment compensation, to try things you always wanted to do when you were too busy. Take some classes, try new sports, do yoga. Anything positive is a good use of your extra time. Contact friends you haven't seen for a while and spend time with them. Make a sandwich and some coffee or sun tea and have a picnic lunch out somewhere. Fill your days with fun and productivity.

Get pro-active about interviewing

When you go to a job interview, think in terms of you interviewing them. Go in prepared with the questions you want to ask, what you'd like to know about the prospective new job, and speak up. Remember that you are searching for a situation that's good for you, not just a job. If you don't get called back, then assume it wasn't good for you. Research companies you are applying to, so you know something about the specific company and job when you go in. Get help from an employment counselor "head hunter" person you feel good about. Interview them, too, until you find a good one. Talking about a job interview with the counselor can be a great way to debrief and gain perspective. Don't just rely on online job hunting sites to find your new place. Network, talk to people you know, go to industry meetings like the Chamber of Commerce or a professional association or union group to find out where the jobs are.

Look at this as an opportunity to re-structure your work life. Have you thought about moving somewhere else? Getting training for a new line of work? Starting your own company? This may be the opportunity you were waiting for. Take the loss of your job as a message from the Universe that it wasn't the right place for you, and take advantage of this new chance to do something better.

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10 Steps to Detox Your Life

1. Frequently late

The cure to lateness is twofold: learn to estimate time better, and get more organized, so you are not delayed by looking for last minute items. "How to Stretch Time" can help. Perhaps the most important reason to cure yourself of lateness is that it is rude to others, and costs you their good opinion. If your partner is late, stop waiting! Set a reasonable grace period (eg: 15 minutes) and then leave; leaving a note about how to meet you wherever you're going. That way, you are not forced to operate on the other person's time schedule. You'll be surprised at how quickly he or she will learn to be on time.

2. Often angry or irritated

Being easily angered or irritated is a great way to punish yourself. It raises your blood pressure, and tends to create unnecessary problems with others. Anger interferes with clear thinking, and being irritable makes it unpleasant and difficult for others to work or socialize with you. To reform this habit, you must develop more emotional maturity. Understand that your anger is not seen as power by others, but as childishness and petulance. It will lose you far more than you will gain. Learn to slow down, and reduce your overly high expectations. Allow others to be themselves, and don't expect them to march to your drum. Counting to 10 works wonders, as does taking three deep breaths when you are upset.

A discipline like yoga, meditation, tai chi, or another calming pursuit will teach you patience. Strenuous physical activity is a great way to burn off excess anger. If none of these work, see a therapist or join an anger management group.

3. Unsure of ability to do something

Insecurity and feelings of incompetence are definitely stressful, but they may also be useful. Find out if you really are unprepared for the task ahead. Don't be afraid to ask questions, or ask for help. It's OK to be a beginner, even if you're an expert in other things. If you don't try to pretend you're better than you are, you will get more help from others. Take it slowly, and allow yourself to learn as you go. Above all, be supportive to yourself, and don't subject yourself to harsh internal criticism.

4. Overextended

Frequently becoming overextended can be a sign of grandiosity -- overblown expectations of your abilities -- or of trying to control everything. Reduce your expectations of your own accomplishments, and allow others to help you in their own way. In the long run, being a team player is usually more efficient than trying to do it all alone and becoming overwhelmed.

5. Not enough time for stress relief

This is an aspect of being overextended, and may be a sign that you always come last in your own life. Learn to schedule time for yourself to relax and to play. If you write personal time on your schedule the same way you do appointments with others, you'll be more likely to actually do it. Join a class or group that meets regularly for a relaxing activity such as dancing, stretching or meditation, or schedule a regular massage, manicure or facial, so you'll have a guaranteed place to relax.

6. Feeling unbearably tense

If your anxiety is this high, you may need therapy. Anxiety and panic attacks are among the easiest things to fix in counseling sessions. Anxiety is usually the result of non-stop negative self-talk, which keeps you anxious about everything. Try affirmations and/or prayer to counteract the running commentary in your mind. Learn to breathe deeply from your diaphragm when you feel anxious -- it slows your heartbeat and calms you down.

7. Frequently pessimistic

A negative attitude is a result of negative self-talk, and of a negative attitude probably learned in childhood. There are many self-help books which will guide you in learning to change the nature of your approach to life, including It Ends With You. Techniques such as prayer and affirmations, counting your blessings, and setting small goals every day will help you turn this around.

8. Upset by conflicts with others

All conflict is upsetting. The key is to reduce the amount of conflict in your life. Many of the above techniques, such as anger reduction and positive self-talk, will contribute to improving your relationships with others. In addition, you can learn better social techniques such as active

listening, positive regard, win-win negotiation and clear communication which will eliminate the source of conflict. Learn to listen to others (even when you don't agree) and, before speaking, consider how your words might feel to the other person. Treat other people more as you would like them to treat you, and, most important, stop and think before reacting to someone else.

9. Worn-out or burned-out

Burnout is the result of feeling overextended or ineffective for a long period of time. Most of us can deal with small amounts of frustration or feeling overwhelmed, but if it goes on too long, we lose all our motivation, and become burned out. Motivation comes from celebration and appreciation, so learn to celebrate each little accomplishment, and seek appreciation when you need it. If you have trouble doing that, perhaps it's time to make a career change or to change some other aspect of your life.

10. Feeling lonely

Loneliness may not result from actually being alone, but more from feeling misunderstood or not valued. People often isolate themselves because they feel inadequate in social situations. Value the friends you do have, and make new friends by attending classes or other group events where you can focus on a task or assignment. This will take the pressure off your contact with other people, and give you something in common with them. Be wary of spending too much time on your computer, in chat rooms, etc. These activities absorb time, but do little to dispel loneliness. Make sure you schedule some time with a friend at least once a week, and if you don't have friends, then use that weekly time to take a class or join a group (for example, a book club or sports group) which will give you a chance to make new friends.

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Create Harmonizing Thoughts

As much as you would like to think otherwise and blame your circumstances or the people around you, the outcomes or results you experience in your life, are the result of only one person - "YOU". As James Allen so aptly said in his book, titled "As a Man Thinketh", "A Person is the causer (though nearly always unconsciously) of his circumstances, and that, whilst aiming at the good end, he is continually frustrating its accomplishment by encouraging thoughts and desires which cannot possibly harmonize with that end."

Great Example

In his book, As a Man Thinketh, James Allen offers an example to support his philosophy as stated above. He tells the story of a very wealthy man, with a very gluttonous demeanour, who suffers from a very painful disease. He spends large sums of money to try to get well and to try to find a cure, when all he needed to do was to change his bad glutinous habits. The wealthy man can never achieve good health and get rid of the disease; irrespective of how much money he spends. Until he aligns his desires and brings them into harmony with good health he seeks.

Have you uncovered your desires?

Are your desires aligned and in harmony with the outcomes you want to achieve. You can never achieve anything meaningful, unless you find a way to align what you want, with your beliefs, values and thoughts. You are creating your circumstances all the time, with your beliefs, thoughts and actions or lack thereof. Your belief around what you think or believe you deserve to achieve, is what determines what action you are willing to take and more importantly, they may also cause you to sabotage your own efforts too.

When you start to achieve success, which is outside of what you believe possible for you or, which pulls you out of your self-imposed comfort zone. You will subconsciously sabotage yourself. Sounds really crazy, that someone would sabotage himself or herself, but it is a well-researched fact that people subconsciously sabotage their efforts, when they are pulled out of what is familiar or comfortable. Explore your own belief system right now. Can you think of a time when you unconsciously stood in your own way or sabotaged your own efforts? I am certain you can think of quite a few.

Do you believe that Attitude is everything?

I am sure you can relate to the story above, about the wealthy businessman. Where you have experienced similar circumstances, you want things to change, but you are not willing to change the things, which will help you to achieve the result or change you want. Unless you get out of your own way and change your attitude, behaviour and habits, you will never escape the place where you live right now. I have spent so much time in my own life, desperately wanting to remove certain negative circumstances from my own life, while thinking thoughts, taking actions and retaining the habits, which resulted in the circumstances in the first place. You can never change anything, unless you find a way to align your thoughts, actions and habits, with the outcome you want to achieve.

You can Change your thought patterns

A few years ago I made a new year's resolution. I was committed to spend more quality time with my family. I enthusiastically laid out a schedule of activities, which we would do together. I was very excited by the prospect of spending more time with the people I loved so dearly. The plan I had laid out and all my good intentions put me in line, for winning the father of the year prize that year.

Let it suffice to say, that had there been a top dad competition that year, I would have placed stone last. Despite my good intentions, I had not changed my thought patterns, habits or actions at all. I got wrapped up in running my businesses, justifying my need to be present all the time. I constantly found good reasons to justify why could not to meet my commitment. I had paid lip service towards spending time with my family, but had not changed the habitual thoughts and actions, which had kept me away from my family in the first place.

As you know - Circumstances don't change you do

I am sure you have heard the saying that goes, "If you want things to change, you need to change" Nothing can or will change in your life, until you change the things, which brought those circumstances about in the first place. You need to harmonize, your thinking, habits and actions, with the results you want to achieve. To think any differently, is to be as foolish as the wealthy man described earlier, who wanted change, but would not change his own behaviour, which was the root cause of the problem in the first place.

See it when you believe it

Wayne Dyer, is one of the most enlightened people I have ever met. He said it so well, when he said, "Work each day on your thoughts rather than concentrating on your behaviour. It is your thinking that creates the feelings you have and ultimately your actions as well."

Explore your drive, passion and excitement. Try to uncover and discover the thoughts, habits and actions, which are necessary to support you to achieve your vision. Once you have discovered these three crucial elements for success, the rest will seem easy. Remember that "Nothing ever happens to you, things happen because of you"

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