What Are Your Expectations for the Future?

Why do you think everyone has different expectations and beliefs about what they can achieve in the future? I know you are expecting a really profound answer here, but I am afraid the answer is really simple. Your most prominent thoughts drive your expectations. So what you think about, actually does affect the way things turn out in the future. Your thoughts really do have an incredible effect on your life and how it will turn out.

When last did you invest some time to ensure that your thoughts are positive and that you are in a positive mental state, where you consistently reflect a positive attitude to the world?

Your thoughts create Everything in your Life
It has been common knowledge for many years that your thoughts do indeed drive your success or lack thereof. In fact many of the greatest self-improvement books ever written, focused on the power of your thoughts. The titles that come to mind are titles like 'Think and Grow Rich", "As a man Thinketh" "The magic of thinking big" and "The power of positive Thinking" and many, many more. It has been proven many times over that what you regularly think about, you most certainly bring about.

Are you making a fatal Mistake?
The most common error made by most people, who set goals is that they use their thoughts to turn the creative process against them. For example, we are extremely averse to losing things. So when you set a goal to lose weight, you are setting yourself up for failure. Rather set a positive goal in the present tense, something like "I come alive at 95", or "looking great at 58". This positive reinforcement allows you to view your goals as something positive and something you want to take action to achieve.

Another fatal mistake is setting a goal around the things you don't want. For example if you want to live debt free. "You set a goal like I will be debt free by a certain date" This means that your goal is focused squarely on what you don't want in your life. Again you are not creating a positive feeling and set of emotions around your goals. Rather set goals like "I will create a positive net asset value, by certain date". This allows you to focus on taking positive actions to achieve a positive outcome.

Avoid the common mistakes of focusing on the negative, or on setting goals where you must lose something and rather focus on creating a positive vision of what you want to create in the future.

Action Idea: Allow yourself to get centered, grounded and look around your world, see all the wonderful abundance, which exists in you and all around you. This mind-set is best supported, when you explore your world, appreciating all the wonder that you already possess. I must once again affirm the importance of feeling gratitude for everything in your world, as it puts you in a far better place and mind space, where it is far easier to think and believe in all the positive possibility, which abounds.

Clear Negative Thoughts from your Mind
When you focus on gratitude and you set only positive goals. It is far easier to stop negative thoughts and the natural doubts, which flow through your mind all the time. It becomes far easier to redirect your thoughts towards abundance and to see all the wonderful opportunities all around you. Focus on the positive, be aware of the negative, but ensure that this does drive your expectation and you will be able to invite more abundance into your experience. This will will allow you to experience far more well-being, meaning, fulfilment, love and joy in your life.

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Emotional Awareness: Are Your Split-Off Parts Controlling How You Feel?

Emotions are often seen as an inconvenience - as things that do more harm than good. And, when someone has this outlook, they are likely to experience a lot of 'negative' emotions.

Consequently, they may alternative between being overwhelmed by how they feel and disconnecting from how they feel. Just being with how they feel is going to be a challenge for them.

The Ideal

If they had the tendency to feel good, there would be no reason for them to have this outlook. But, through having experienced so much emotional pain, it will have caused them to believe that the emotional part of their nature doesn't benefit them.

Removing this part of their nature may be seen as something that would allow them to finally experience life differently. There is the chance that they will spend time with other people who have a similar viewpoint.

The Forgotten Area

Someone like this might know how to cook wonderful meals or to manage a large company, for instance, yet they won't know a great deal about their emotions. The understanding that they have of their own emotions will be no better than their understanding of what it would be like to live on another planet.

However, this doesn't mean that someone like this is the exception in today's world. In many ways, the kind of relationship that they have with their emotions is simply a consequence of living in the modern-day world.

The Defining Factor

The type of relationship that someone has with their own emotions is usually the result of what took place during the beginning of their life. So, if someone's early years were a time when their needs were generally met, they are likely to have a healthy relationship with their emotions as an adult.

On the other, if this was a time when their needs were rarely, if ever, met, they probably won't have a healthy relationship with their emotions as an adult. There are exceptions, of course, as someone can develop a healthy relationship with their emotions as an adult even if they didn't get what they needed as a child.

No Correction

Throughout someone's time in the education system, it is unlikely that they would have been given any guidance on their emotions. The years would then have gone by and the pain within them may have got even worse.

And, if they were to go to their doctor, they may end up being put on some kind of medication or referred to a behavioural therapist, for instance. The first option probably won't allow them to gain a better understanding of what is going on within them and the second option might not be a lot better.

A Common Point of View

When it comes to the behavioural approach, one can end up coming to believe that their thoughts always define how they feel. The way to control how they feel will then be to control how they think.

Being mindful of what takes place in the head and choosing to think the right thoughts may work, then again, it might not have much of an impact. At this point, they may start to wonder if their thoughts always control how they feel or if this is simply a half-truth.

Two Parts

What the approach above ignores is that while what is going on up top can define how someone feels in their body, what is going on in someone's body can also define what is taking place up top. Said another way, it is a two-way system, and what is going on down below can have a far greater effect on someone's life that what is going on up top.

This is why the body has been seen as the unconscious mind, as it is where someone keeps the parts of themselves that they don't want to face - their shadow. Trauma and emotional pain is stored in the body.

Emotional Wounds

What has taken place during someone's adult years will have played a part when it comes to the emotional pain that is in their body, but what took place when they were growing up is likely to have played an even bigger part. One way of looking at the pain in their body is to see it as being the result of the many different selves/split-off parts that they are carrying.

These selves will be crying out to be heard and acknowledged; the last thing they want is to be ignored or controlled. And although these selves won't reflect their true-self, they can end up taking over.

A Mater of Survival

The reason they have so many wounded selves within them is likely to be because they were unable to handle the pain they experienced as a child. Each time they felt overwhelmed, they would have had to disconnect from how they felt and to push it out of their awareness.

They wouldn't have had the ability to handle how they felt at this age and no one would have been there to support them, so this would have been the only option available. This would have been a defence mechanism that their mind used to ensure that their life didn't come to an end.

Surrendering

In most cases, these split-off parts are likely to exist due the fact that their caregivers were unable to be present when they were younger. This is why presence is what will allow these parts to be integrated, thereby allowing them to function as a whole human being and to express their true-self in the process.

Thus, this is not about someone trying to force or to change anything; it is about acknowledging these selves/parts and allowing them to speak out. They may have numerous different selves within them, which is why this is not something that will happen overnight.

Awareness

This is a process that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer. What this will also do is allow them to develop a better relationship with their emotions and to feel more at peace.

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