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Emotional Awareness: Are Your Split-Off Parts Controlling How You Feel?

Emotions are often seen as an inconvenience - as things that do more harm than good. And, when someone has this outlook, they are likely to experience a lot of 'negative' emotions.

Consequently, they may alternative between being overwhelmed by how they feel and disconnecting from how they feel. Just being with how they feel is going to be a challenge for them.

The Ideal

If they had the tendency to feel good, there would be no reason for them to have this outlook. But, through having experienced so much emotional pain, it will have caused them to believe that the emotional part of their nature doesn't benefit them.

Removing this part of their nature may be seen as something that would allow them to finally experience life differently. There is the chance that they will spend time with other people who have a similar viewpoint.

The Forgotten Area

Someone like this might know how to cook wonderful meals or to manage a large company, for instance, yet they won't know a great deal about their emotions. The understanding that they have of their own emotions will be no better than their understanding of what it would be like to live on another planet.

However, this doesn't mean that someone like this is the exception in today's world. In many ways, the kind of relationship that they have with their emotions is simply a consequence of living in the modern-day world.

The Defining Factor

The type of relationship that someone has with their own emotions is usually the result of what took place during the beginning of their life. So, if someone's early years were a time when their needs were generally met, they are likely to have a healthy relationship with their emotions as an adult.

On the other, if this was a time when their needs were rarely, if ever, met, they probably won't have a healthy relationship with their emotions as an adult. There are exceptions, of course, as someone can develop a healthy relationship with their emotions as an adult even if they didn't get what they needed as a child.

No Correction

Throughout someone's time in the education system, it is unlikely that they would have been given any guidance on their emotions. The years would then have gone by and the pain within them may have got even worse.

And, if they were to go to their doctor, they may end up being put on some kind of medication or referred to a behavioural therapist, for instance. The first option probably won't allow them to gain a better understanding of what is going on within them and the second option might not be a lot better.

A Common Point of View

When it comes to the behavioural approach, one can end up coming to believe that their thoughts always define how they feel. The way to control how they feel will then be to control how they think.

Being mindful of what takes place in the head and choosing to think the right thoughts may work, then again, it might not have much of an impact. At this point, they may start to wonder if their thoughts always control how they feel or if this is simply a half-truth.

Two Parts

What the approach above ignores is that while what is going on up top can define how someone feels in their body, what is going on in someone's body can also define what is taking place up top. Said another way, it is a two-way system, and what is going on down below can have a far greater effect on someone's life that what is going on up top.

This is why the body has been seen as the unconscious mind, as it is where someone keeps the parts of themselves that they don't want to face - their shadow. Trauma and emotional pain is stored in the body.

Emotional Wounds

What has taken place during someone's adult years will have played a part when it comes to the emotional pain that is in their body, but what took place when they were growing up is likely to have played an even bigger part. One way of looking at the pain in their body is to see it as being the result of the many different selves/split-off parts that they are carrying.

These selves will be crying out to be heard and acknowledged; the last thing they want is to be ignored or controlled. And although these selves won't reflect their true-self, they can end up taking over.

A Mater of Survival

The reason they have so many wounded selves within them is likely to be because they were unable to handle the pain they experienced as a child. Each time they felt overwhelmed, they would have had to disconnect from how they felt and to push it out of their awareness.

They wouldn't have had the ability to handle how they felt at this age and no one would have been there to support them, so this would have been the only option available. This would have been a defence mechanism that their mind used to ensure that their life didn't come to an end.

Surrendering

In most cases, these split-off parts are likely to exist due the fact that their caregivers were unable to be present when they were younger. This is why presence is what will allow these parts to be integrated, thereby allowing them to function as a whole human being and to express their true-self in the process.

Thus, this is not about someone trying to force or to change anything; it is about acknowledging these selves/parts and allowing them to speak out. They may have numerous different selves within them, which is why this is not something that will happen overnight.

Awareness

This is a process that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer. What this will also do is allow them to develop a better relationship with their emotions and to feel more at peace.

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How to Transform Your Life

Have you been feeling dejected in life lately? Do you want to have a more profound life? Then get ready to exist less and to live more.

As a life coach and a keynote speaker, I believe that each one of us is meant to fulfil the individual purpose of our life. So if you want to change some significant aspects of your life to make it a better one, you need to take action today to start making alterations accordingly. Remember, it's never too late to transform your life. And although transforming your life can be extremely challenging, it can be exciting and rewarding at the same time.

Transforming your life involves going beyond the way you live. It requires immense patience and discipline to create a better life for yourself. You need to have an unwavering self-confidence in your ability to be able to make significant and positive changes in your life. If you want to transform your life, you will have to become the master of your own destiny.

The process of transforming your life starts with shifting the way that you think in. You need to change your perspective and act from a new and more empowering perspective because your mindset has the power to change your entire life for the better. Emerge out of your self-absorbed cocoon, and search for a greater purpose for your life. Welcome new acquaintances and connections into your life who give you positive vibes and helps you change your outlook towards life. Develop good and fulfilling habits to bring about the desired change.

Accept yourself for the person you are. Embrace all your flaws and imperfections and forgive yourself for your mistakes and failures. Never lose sight of yourself because you will succeed in making changes only if they come from a place of self-respect rather than self-loathing.

Next, you need to have a strong desire that will propel you to achieve the purpose of your life. If you are serious about transforming your life, determine your values and then make a decision accordingly. Once you have made up your mind to usher in change into your life, commit to it.

Start with small changes and move on to a bigger step gradually. Always remember that the smallest changes can transform who you are and your life.

But it's not until you take action that change happens. Action makes your transformation deeper. So instead of procrastinating, start early and give each of the steps the time it needs. Every action leads to results and it is the result that finally helps you transform your life.

Lastly, be grateful. We generally tend to take the gift of life for granted which leads to pessimism and then to depression. So learn to be grateful for the things that you have instead of cribbing about what you don't. Gratitude opens doors for you and helps you welcome better things into your life.

The journey of life is never a straight line for anybody. Your life will have its own share of highs and lows. Failure and struggle are synonymous with life. But always keep in mind that the prerogative to change life for the better lies with you. It starts and ends with you.

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How Robert Downey Jr Turned His Life Around, Rebuilt Himself, & Skyrocketed To Success

He was in a tail-spin.

His life burning to the ground... trapped in drug addiction... fired from the show Ally McBeal... and even sent to prison. No one dared to hire him. You'd never guess it today. But years ago, that was actor Robert Downey Jr.

Yet - he turned his life around... rebuilt himself... and skyrocketed to become Iron Man.

How?

Here are four secrets that turbo-charged his comeback. Even if you don't have dreams of being a dynamic actor (or actress)... even if you're facing a different "enemy"... even if you don't even like superhero movies... these four lessons (when implemented) can help you rise back up, rebuild yourself and resurrect yourself to a new level.

Iron Man's 4 Secrets to Rising From Rock-Bottom

1. Laser-Beam Focus On Taking The Next Step

Just like Tony Stark slaving away in a cave to build the original Iron Man suit. Downey's climb out of the darkness took seven years. He rebuilt his credibility, his commitment and his self-confidence one day at a time. One movie at a time. One job at a time.

He says:

I found my way out of the woods

by a subtler and subtler trail of bread crumbs

-Robert Downey Jr.

Not Hulk-like leaps forward. Small relentless steps forward.

(Remember progress is progress)

2. You Can Always Build Your Self-Discipline Muscles

At first, Downey doubted his ability to leave a life of drugs. He knew it was wrecking everything. But kept going back. With the help of Wing Chun (Chinese martial art) he built up his concentration... laser-like focus... and inner calm. This finally busted the vice-grip that drugs had over him.

3. Knowing It's Okay To Ask For Help

When Downey had demonstrated his commitment to staying sober, producers still had ice cold feet. They swore he'd bail out. But Mel Gibson (who had his own demons) who worked with him on a previous film - jumped to the rescue. He believed in Downey so much that he put up collateral to reassure producers.

This gave Downey his shot to star in The Singing Detective... showing audiences and Hollywood that he was heaven-bent on taking his life back. But if Downey was too proud to accept Gibson's help, this never would have happened.

4. Total Belief That Your Skills Will Eclipse Your Past Mistakes

At first, Marvel Comics didn't want anything to do with him. Jon Favreau, director of Iron Man, fought tooth and nail to persuade the studio to hire him. He saw Downey's electricity. He saw his dynamite acting skills overshadowed his dark past.

Here was this force of nature,

who I think was living with this frustration

that he wasn't able to really show what he was great at

-Jon Favreau

That greatness lies within each and every one of us.

We are all forces of nature in our own way.

Find what it is for you.

And start building... rebuilding... and creating something (or becoming someone) that you're proud of.

Because the past does not have to equal the future.

P.S. Besides Wing Chun, there are other powerhouse techniques for quickly tapping more inner strength, inner peace, self-discipline and bringing gusto and confidence when you wake up each morning. One way is an ancient Asian technique that gives you the strength to rapidly rebound from stressful situations. Plus, studies find it develops the "happy region" (left frontal lobe) of the brain.

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Behaviours - How to stop screwing yourself over

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7 Tips To Inspire Your Destiny and Life Purpose

Are you happy with your current situation in life? Your answers could range from yes, no, maybe; then you start pondering and have these strange thoughts that have been recurring every time you ask yourself this question. You sigh these thoughts out with well, sure, kind of, not really honestly, whatever...

You don’t know why or what is it, but you feel that there is something lacking. So you sit there, physically and emotionally exhausted, and wallow in self-pity because you cannot get out of that dark tunnel.

Just like that man in the story, what we need is a light at the end of that tunnel. That light could metaphorically speak to your purpose in life. You don’t know which direction to take or you’re scared from not knowing what lies ahead of you? Maybe what you actually need is a beacon of light, a purpose, to inspire and motivate you not just to move forward but to actually do a significant change in your life.

For some, finding their purpose is easy while for many, it is difficult and so they come away frustrated and dissatisfied. They cannot find their light. Sometimes however, one needs not to simply find it as you could create your own light.

You could use your own match or some friction to ignite that fire. Sometimes, it’s helpful to hear words of wisdom and advice from our ancient thinkers. What’s the best way to do that but to hear some from Socrates, the father of philosophy. Maybe his words could ignite a fire in your heart you never thought would be possible:

#1. Know Thyself

This basically means self-reflection, knowing your purpose starts with knowing yourself. It could serve as a means of awakening and discovering your inner soul, what is it saying, what does it want?

From there, it is possible to unlock the ways to live your life with meaning and a sense of fulfillment. Know yourself by asking these soul searching questions once in a while:

Why am I here?
Where do I want to go or to be?
What is my heart’s desires?
What do I want to change?
What can I do, what is my potential?

What inspires me?

These questions would be helpful in assessing your passion and interest, and in turn, give you a direction in which road to take. Also, take notes of your answers and compare them to your previous ones in order to see the changes and developments.

When it becomes hard for you to answer these questions, you could seek help from others.

Having a little chat with some people who know you like your parents and friends could help you unravel some things about yourself.

#2. Think For Yourself

Sometimes, what makes it difficult for many to discover their inner souls is that they are denying themselves this self-knowledge. Aside from being difficult, self-knowledge could be painful to some.

As a young girl, you grew up with a passion for ballet and then people start telling mean things about your dancing, that you’re not really good. You’re hurt and so you hide your shoes away and play small even though you are dying to show the world what you can do. You think you are not talented enough, and you let others extinguish that fire.

There would always be a battle between wants and couldn’t. People will tell you what you couldn’t do but in order to have that purpose, to live that meaningful life, you should know that only you could say what you couldn’t do.

#3. Seeking To Become Better

As mentioned earlier, purpose cannot only be found but also created. It does not come easily to everyone and it could be a long and gradual process so you could start by wanting to have that significant change then seeking it.
Set your purpose, own it.

#4. To be is to do

Of course, after you set your purpose, you need to act it. Wear your heart out in your sleeves. If you can picture in your head what you are supposed to be or what can make you happy, take it into action.

#5. Be aware of the bareness of a busy life

For some, being busy equates to having your purpose in life. You have a busy job, you have children to take care of, or those sort of things that you write in your planners.

However, it would not hurt to take some days off, take a little break and just live in the moment. Busyness creates an illusion that you are living you’re life but there are actually more important things that you are missing on. Give yourself some time to reconsider the things you are doing in a daily basis.

#6. The unexamined life is not worth living

Others might be wondering, how would I know if this is really my purpose? Go back to tip 1, know thyself, and ask yourself those questions again. What more should you be doing everyday to bring you not just personal purpose but also affecting other people around you?

Your sense of purpose change from time to time and we cannot actually determine that your purpose at one time would be the same for another year or a decade.

Assess and evaluate your life if it’s exactly what you wanted it to be, and the rest is up to you.

#7. Not life, but good life, is to be chiefly valued

At the end of it, Socrates would ask us not just to set a life purpose but a good life purpose, a virtuous one which would also bring good to others.

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Tony Robbins: Stop Your Negative Thinking (Tony Robbins Depression)

Your Thoughts attract EVERYTHING

10 Ways to Boost Self Esteem

There are many ways to boost self esteem. Self esteem is the positive or negative attitude one feels about themselves. Portraying yourself to be a certain way in your mind will eventually lead to disappointment. Here are ten ways that helps to boost your self esteem.

1. Avoid Negative People

Don't let people's negative perception of you lead you to start believing those negative thoughts of yours. When it comes to self esteem, your opinion is the only one that matters. Avoid people that treat you badly for this will start to make you feel bad towards yourself. Surrounding yourself around negative people will only make you act negatively.

2. Stop Trying to Please Everyone

You can't please everyone so don't try. Trying to please everyone will have you feeling unappreciated if you don't get that same treatment in return. Even though you should treat others how you want to be treated, you won't always get that same treatment in return. Not getting the same treatment in return is not a reflection of you, but them. Everyone's intention won't be the same as yours. Pleasing everyone is stressful. Don't rely on others to determine your self worth because of rejection. Don't expect things to always come out the way you expect it to. Be the unique person that you are. You don't need to seek validation from anyone. Never let the thoughts and feelings of not being able to help others affect you mentally, physically, and emotionally.

3. Occupy Yourself

Don't spend time thinking about something that makes you sad or insecure. Do the things you love to do to occupy your mind. If you are busy doing things you love to do, you're not going to have the time to dwell on negativity.

4. Get Support

It's OK to get the support you need when struggling with low self esteem. You don't have to do it alone. Having a good support system makes believing in yourself a lot easier. Communicating how you really feel shows that you are in tune with negative thoughts and really want the help. Being more open allows you to express all your feelings that you have been holding inside.

5. Forgive

You have to be able to forgive. Holding onto feelings of resentment will keep you in a state of negativity. Once you forgive yourself, you will be able to start to forgive others. Sometimes you have to change your perspective to see other's point of view. The past is the past and you can't change it so don't live with regrets. Having that sense of forgiveness is a relief lifted off your shoulders.

6. Be Confident

Never feel like you are ever worthless. Have confidence on both the inside and out. Encourage yourself and treat yourself with kindness. The more you practice treating yourself genuinely, self confidence will rise. No one can see your insecurities and lack of confidence unless you show and tell them. Having strong self esteem results from day to day activities and how you control the bad thoughts. As you focus more on the present instead of what should have, could have and would have, confidence will come easily. Are these thoughts factual? Do you really believe the things you think about yourself? Would you say those things about yourself to someone else? If you wouldn't, then avoid saying them to yourself. Being hard on yourself while having low self esteem will lead to depression.

7. Don't Compare yourself to others

Comparing yourself to others can make you feel as if you're not worth it. Just because you feel someone has more than you, or is doing better than you in any type of way brings you down. There is no such thing as a life that's better than yours. Your insecurities shouldn't be a reflection on any and everything that someone says. Don't be so hard on yourself if things don't go exactly as you want them to. Know your own personal value.

8. Surround yourself around positive

Surround yourself around people who loves, cares, and accepts you just for who you are. It helps when family and friends remind you of things that you do right. If you expect to be treated a certain way, surround yourself around those people. Treat those who treat you negatively how to treat you. People see you differently than you see yourself. Openly accept the sayings of the ones who treat you good. This helps you view yourself in a different way other than how you view yourself. Hearing what people like about you instead of what they don't like about you puts your mind at ease. Treat others with kindness and the kindness will be returned. Being appreciated makes you feel better about yourself.

9. Make a list

Make a list of things you feel proud of. Celebrate your accomplishments. No matter how big or small, it's always a job well done. When you feel your self esteem is not high, look at the list to remind yourself of your success.

10. Turn negative thoughts to positivity

Negative talk can cause you to respond negatively. Emotions run high when there is negative talk around. Instead of feeling overwhelmed from negative thoughts, accept them. Don't allow negative thoughts to influence your behavior. When you feel bad, you will only remember bad times. As you continue to think about things that upset you, it will cause you to act in such a way that's not appropriate. The way you feel has a major impact on thoughts and behavior. Your self esteem will began to improve as you learn to control negative thoughts. If you can't control your thoughts, you will never be able to control your behavior. Learn from past failures and turn it into positives.

Being aware of your thoughts and feelings uncovers the real issue. Just because you see yourself to be a certain way. Thoughts are just thoughts; not necessarily to be factual. Thoughts are normal and may seem factual, but they are just perceptions of the way things should be.

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