Loving Yourself Can Heal Fear

"I believe that anyone can conquer fear by doing the things he fears to do, provided he keeps doing them until he gets a record of successful experiences behind him." ~Eleanor Roosevelt

I know from my own experiences that what Eleanor Roosevelt said in the above quote is very true.

• I used to be scared to speak up for myself or speak my truth, and now I do it easily.
• I used to be afraid of public speaking or doing radio or TV shows, and now I do these easily.
• I used to be scared to be in my power, and now it's natural for me.
• I used to be afraid of confrontation and conflict, and now I welcome these experiences in order to learn from them.
• I used to be scared that if I opened to learning with my higher guidance, there would be nothing there, and now I know that I'm never alone and am always being guided.
• I used to be afraid of my deeper painful feelings, and now I embrace them with love and compassion and allow them to move through me. I now know that I can lovingly manage them and that they won't overwhelm me.
• I used to be afraid to write, and now writing flows easily.

We can't talk ourselves out of fear, which is what our ego wounded-self tries to do. When we choose to operate as a loving adult with a strong motivation to love ourselves, then we don't put our inner child out there alone to do something we are afraid of doing.

For example, when I first started public speaking and teaching - before Spirit brought us inner work - I was very scared of not knowing what to say or of forgetting what I wanted to say. I was scared that I would get so nervous that I wouldn't be able to talk. After I started to practice inner work, I realized that I had been putting my inner child out there to do the teaching. Of course she was scared! It was not a job for my inner child!

Now, before I speak or teach or do a radio or TV show, I make sure to tell my inner child that this isn't her job - that it's the job of my loving adult allowing my higher self to speak through me. Instead of trying to control what I say, I surrender to my higher guidance and allow her to be the speaker and teacher.

After doing this many times, the fear went away.

Healing Fear Through Loving Yourself

The more my inner child knows that I am here loving myself through fear, the safer she feels with things that used to feel very scary. Healing fear through loving myself means:

• Consistently showing up as a loving adult so that my inner child doesn't feel alone with scary things.
• Being willing to do the scary things over and over until the positive experiences become part of my neural pathways.
• Letting my inner child know that it's okay to make mistakes and to fail, and that my worth and lovability are not attached to outcomes.
• Valuing my willingness to try new and scary things so that my inner child feels valued for the effort rather than for the outcome.
• Being compassionate rather than critical with my feelings when things don't turn out the way I want.
• Letting go of having to know ahead of time whether or not something is best for me and being willing to trust what I want and the information I receive from my guidance regarding what is in my highest good - willing to go with the flow of life rather than trying to control it.

I encourage you to start doing what you want to do rather than allowing fear to stop you, and see what happens!
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Building Confidence Levels Through Mind Control

Have you ever wondered about how you think? Learning to control your thoughts is a very effective personal development technique for building confidence levels. But the problem is that thinking is hard work, and most people seem to want to avoid it at all costs. They would rather leave things to the intuition to help them make decisions.

But in order to make changes in your life, to build confidence levels, boost your self image and self esteem, and do the things that you currently find difficult, you are going to have to make some changes in your habits.

Making Change Easy

But don't panic - these changes can be very easy. I'm going to discuss the different thinking processes, how they work, and how you can benefit from some simple mind control tips.

We use our senses to collect information, and our habits then tell us what to do with that data. What we need to learn about here is how we can make use of it, and what we did last time we experienced the same input.

The first thing we do when new data is processed through our senses is to check if we have experienced it before, and if so, how did we react to it. If we have experienced it before, chances are we will repeat the exact same reaction and create the same feelings and emotions. It's our pre-programmed habitual way of reacting to that situation or environment.

Are You Living Your Life on auto-Pilot?

These auto-pilot habits and reactions can be good or bad, depending on the situation and experience. Some of these habits are very useful - like driving a car. They allow us to drive the car without too much conscious thought and effort. Have you ever arrived at your destination then wondered how on earth you got there? It was you automatic habit that got you there.

So in the case of driving a car, these habits are good. But when it comes to weak and debilitating behaviours, these automatic habits are bad. For example, if you have a habit of being nervous or stressed when you have a lot of tasks to do at work, then this habit is weakening you and holding you back. Or if the thought of having a dinner party fills you with fear and anxiety, this is a weakening habit that is disempowering you.

Your habits are controlling the way you automatically react to all these situations - and you instinctively go along with it without asking yourself why you are reacting that way. But the good news is that weak and disempowering habits and emotions can be changed - and fairly easily too.

How To Have An Interesting Conversation - With Yourself 

You start by simply being aware of how you are reacting. Then you ask yourself some probing questions - like "why am I responding in this way?", and "how would I really like to feel when in this situation?" Asking how you would like to feel and respond is a great question to ask, as it allows you visualize the end result. See yourself feeling happy, or confident, or relaxed and in control.

Once you know the end result you want, you might want to ask "what's the best way for me to start to feel that way, or behave that way, or react that way?" It may sound strange but this all hangs on you asking yourself some simple questions, and supplying some answers.

To take control of your thinking process, you simply need to ask questions. These questions are the start of your personal development plan. To get better answers, ask better questions. When you react in a negative way, ask yourself why you are feeling that way, and how you would prefer to feel. Your feelings have a very strong bearing on what you will eventually do to overcome those inhibitions.

So there is a simple technique for building confidence levels. Decide to feel good about something, look for how you can start to feel good about it, and remind yourself to feel good each time you start to feel bad in that situation, and very soon you will form a new and empowering habit which eliminates the old one completely.

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When you feel alone. Have you made you dreams into goals ? Do you have a plan and steps in place to reach your goals? Do you look at your goals everyday and just imagine how it feels to have reached them?

The Life-Changing Mindset That Made This Man A Millionaire | T. Harv Eker

Made it then went broke! And got back up again! Who would have done the same?

The High Cost of Doing Nothing

Cost is sometimes a difficult term to define. Here, we are not simply discussing cost as it relates to selling price, but rather opportunity cost. The web site, "Mentors, Ventures and Plans" defines opportunity cost as "The loss of the next best alternative whenever a decision is made involving two or more options". "Investing in Options" defines it as "Choosing the best alternative means that you can't choose the next-best alternative. Opportunity cost is the next-best alternative that must be sacrificed in order to get something else you want. Opportunity cost can be thought of as the road not taken." Inactivity, or doing nothing, is usually the highest price paid and is often associated with great opportunity cost. Inaction is usually the worst decision one can make, made from a base of fear.

Many of us freeze when facing decisions. For some reason, decision making becomes complex, paralyzing and even painful for many people. It should not be this way. Making a decision is simply the act of choosing between alternatives. You must learn to weigh the implications of each possible decision and choose the outcome that is best for you and all others involved. For example, when your telephone bill comes due, you may choose to pay it or not. There are real obvious consequences for both actions. The situation becomes more complex however, when our human emotions enter the picture. For instance; you are offered a new job and must decide to leave your current position and move your family to a new location, hundreds of miles away.

What we often fail to realize, is that delaying important decisions or simply not making a decision at all, are actions that often impact us with the highest opportunity costs and worst case scenarios. Inactivity, or the lack of a decision, is actually a decision made, although one seldom made in our best interests. In this case, we unfortunately transfer over control of our lives to external forces and circumstances. We are now positioned to be at the mercy and decision-making of others. This is not your best scenario. There are often unusually high costs associated with doing nothing.

Decision making is actually a skill set that can be learned and refined. Like all skills, entering into a new area as a novice requires practice and application in order to improve. Keep in mind that you will indeed improve! Start small, with less important decisions involving less than crucial outcomes and gradually make more decisions on matters of greater importance. Soon, you will have few if any issues with making decisions. Learn to start small and work your way up, gradually extending your comfort zone in this area. A by-product of learning these new skills is that your confidence will surely improve as well.

Decision making need not be frightening. Think of it as a process that is your own, shedding any external pressure that others may be applying. Take your time, get your facts and choose the outcome that works best for you. Do not allow yourself to fall victim to the high cost of doing nothing.

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Incredible True Story Behind Sylvester Stallone’s Success Will Inspire You To Never Give Up

Sylvester Stallone has been a household name for decades after the monster success of the Rocky franchise that began in the 1970’s. Not only did he star in these movies as Rocky but he also directed, produced, and wrote a majority of the films. Rocky was his first big hit that made him a certified movie star and would go on film in countless action films.

Today, at age 71, he is still acting, writing, and directing feature films. While he makes success look easy, that was not always the case. Here is the unbelievable inspiring story of Sylvester Stallone — a true rags to riches story.

Sylvester Stallone Inspirational Story

Like many actors, Stallone struggled at the beginning of his Hollywood career. But his struggles were more than most. He was so broke that he became homeless, sold his wife’s jewellery and even sold his dog for $25 as he had no money to feed him anymore. He said that was the lowest moments of his entire life and walked away crying.

A few weeks after the tragic event he watched a Mohammed Ali boxing match that inspired him to write Rocky. He was so inspired that he wrote the entire script in less than a day! Studios loved the script but didn’t love Sylvester Stallone’s one request — to be the main lead in the movie.

He was offered over $300,000 for the script but still said no — despite being dead broke! He knew that this movie was his ticket to success. After enough time a studio agreed to let him star and only gave him $35,000 for the script. Several things happened.

First, he went back to the place he sold his dog, waited around long enough, and was able to buy him back…. for $15,000! But it wasn’t a problem as Rocky went on to make history. With a small budget of one million dollars, it went on to gross 225 million, be nominated for several Oscars, and yield six sequels.

What You Can Learn From Sylvester Stallone 

The best part of this inspirational story is that you can learn two main principles to help you succeed:

Always Believe in Yourself

If Sylvester Stallone had given his script for $350,000 without acting in the film he probably wouldn’t be the worldwide movie star he is today. He believed in himself with absolute conviction and didn’t let money deter him, despite being broke. 

Don’t take the short-term gain if it sacrifices your long-term potential.

Life Can Be Hard Before It’s Easy

Sylvester Stallone went from being dead broke, sleeping on a bus station to being worth 400 million dollars today! If he would have given up on his dream of being an actor it’s almost guaranteed he would never have made that kind of money.

Don’t give up on your dreams just because things are tough right now. When it’s bad and you feel scared, tired and think about quitting keep moving forward!

Hopefully, this Sylvester Stallone inspirational story will help you get closer to reaching your dreams. Remember, never stop believing in yourself and your dream. As Les Brown said, “You have the ability to do more than you could ever begin to imagine.”

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The 3 Keys to Self-Discovery Do You Want To Know Who You Really Are?

The 3 Keys to Self-Discovery

Who are you? “Oh, this is an easy answer”, but is it really? Who are you or who am I really? It’s easy to assume that we have true knowledge of self, but have we really questioned ourselves? I know the answer for most would be an automatic NO. We are all programmed growing up to protect ourselves from discomfort and danger it is only as we become wiser that we realize that is where the most growth lies & if we ever want to achieve great things we have to be brave enough to put our selves on the edge and honest enough to admit that we have a lot to learn about ourselves. My self-discovery has three keys to establishing that foundational self-discovery. Make yourself uncomfortable, educate yourself, be alone and great growth will follow.

Step 1. Self-Education

The first step to self-discovery is educating yourself for yourself. This means that you must remove all tradition and what you’ve learned throughout your entire life. It is time you question all that you were taught and told. You must even question your strongest beliefs and look at everything from many different views. This means that you must read books, have dialogue with strangers, and travel. Reading has done so much for me in my later years. Growing up, reading was the last thing that I would ever want to do and never in life thought it would be the key in my life transformation. I have read many books that have literally help change my life and my views of life. I have traveled to many states, and countries to discover new land and new cultures.

While traveling I have met amazing individuals that I had great conversations to help in my discovery. My trip to Thailand was the most amazing experience. I went to a bar in Bangkok, Thailand and met and older native sitting at the bar. He spoke English and was a practicing Buddhist, which he educated me greatly about Buddhism. I am not a Buddhist, but I now practice certain Buddhist traditions. I also asked my family several questions, why we had certain traditions, why are we Christian, and the why’s went on for hours. Even though I didn’t receive any concrete answers for any of my why’s. I was told “that’s just how things are and what was passed down to us”. I couldn’t accept an answer like that, and me educating myself on my own terms began to create the foundation for new meaning in my life.

Step 2. Removing Comfort

This education that I was getting for myself also created some discomfort. I was learning new things and found out that there is no right or wrong way to look at things in this life. People have made me think that there is only a right way and of course it’s their way. Educating myself has made me uncomfortable with family, friends, and society. I have also made myself uncomfortable with self-challenges.

Challenging what you think is not possible will remove comfort from your life totally. Going to a mosque when you are Christian is a challenge of comfort. Moving to another state or country when you don’t have any family or friends there is a challenge of comfort. Try new foods, new activities, and tackle all physical and mental fears. When you challenge your mental comfort, you will see what you are capable of and possibly discover something you like along the way. You can read about sky-diving and know everything about the activity but it’s nothing compared the physically act of sky-diving. Go ahead and try new things and you will learn more about yourself than ever before.

Step 3. Be Alone

Now while you are educating and removing comfort from your life, no one should be along for this ride. The journey of self-discovery is exactly for the first part “self”. Being alone removes opinions, judgement, and all the other unnecessary distractions. Being alone will help you master your thoughts and meditate to clear your thoughts as well. I want you to know that being alone does not mean you’re lonely. Loneliness is a feeling of insecurity, trauma, and grief, and being alone is self-love, healing, and secure.

I know we confuse the two often and it makes people feel like they always need someone with them on great adventures. This alone time will give you time to develop your thoughts and master your conscious and subconscious. We have full control of our thoughts and it seems that they run amuck when we are alone, but we can control them. We have full control of our minds and bodies, but we must become conscious of that during self-discovery. Meditate, pray, change bad thoughts into great thoughts, and beat positivity into your subconscious by reading, watching, eating, and listening to just positivity. Being alone and deciding of what you want to think is all in your power.

Continue Discovering

This may sound great but true self-discovery is never established because we are forever evolving. You can greatly accelerate you self-discovery but you can never complete it, as it’s a continual process. This start is just the first chapter of your new life. You must understand that you want to create a foundation of your own and not the one that was given to you. This is the epitome of living your own life and being an adult. You must always educate yourself, travel, remove comfort, and value your alone time. Your life’s foundation may change after some time, but the best part of the change is that you are changing it and no-one else is influencing your decisions. Self-discovery is liberating, scary, and exhilarating and should be done by us all as adults. Now go and be yourself and not what someone made you.

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